Don't move the goalposts, dude. I'm not taking advice from someone who says "it's quite likely that nearly all of your problems are the result of your choices,

Don't move the goalposts, dude. I'm not taking advice from someone who says "it's quite likely that nearly all of your problems are the result of your choices, either indirectly through the environment you live in or directly through the actions you take." So stop giving it. Here's my advice, saying stuff like that gets you your ass kicked in the real world.