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I find you can almost always replace “but” with “and” in situations like those and end up more heard by the other side. I understand the urge to feel heard AND
by hmokiguess 2mo ago
I find you can almost always replace “but” with “and” in situations like those and end up more heard by the other side.
I understand the urge to feel heard AND whenever we bring something that may contrast we risk the disagreement connotation that “but” carries to trigger the recipient’s defensive reaction (even if unconsciously)
- Waterluvian 2mo agoFirst rule of relationships: adhere to the first rule of improv!
- CamperBob2 2mo agoAlways leave them wanting more?
- Waterluvian 2mo agoNot only that, but avoid asking questions!
- shermantanktop 2mo agoI had a coworker who talked all the time about their improv activities outside of work. They also dropped “yes, and” into business meetings with execs, and would then explain why. They asked me if I thought it would be a fun team-building exercise to bring in their improv coach and do a class with a bunch of VPs and directors. I said no. I understand the concept but sometimes people can be overzealous about their passions. EDIT: I understand the concept and sometimes people can be overzealous about their passions.
- Waterluvian 2mo agoWhat?! I think a 28 hour game of Twilight Imperium would be a great team destroying exercise.
- kibwen 2mo agoI take umbrage with this gross mischaracterization. After no more than ten practice games to acquire familiarity with the rules, a game of Twilight Imperium rarely takes more than 14 hours.
- galangalalgol 2mo agoDepending on the relationship involved, asking the person why they think I behaved as I did often helps. Sometimes the reason they think I did what I did is more correct than what I would have put after but or and. And sometimes the answer they give shows they are modeling my motivations completely incorrectly.