We are having a conversation about smart outcomes here. The divorce rate is not a random thing. My odds of being happily married or miserable are heavily influ

We are having a conversation about smart outcomes here. The divorce rate is not a random thing. My odds of being happily married or miserable are heavily influenced by how I have worked on myself and who I chose to marry. So part of being "smart" is navigating that situation to achieve the right outcome. The outcome itself is not guaranteed but to cite the rate without acknowledging the factors that are in your control misses the point here. Someone's terrible marriage is of no relevance to your situation.