Thank you fur writing this nichochar. I have many similar thoughts, but one thing that worries me is also trying too hard to do the optimal thing. I often find

Thank you fur writing this nichochar. I have many similar thoughts, but one thing that worries me is also trying too hard to do the optimal thing. I often find that my own expectations collide with reality (kids’ moods, random events necessitating change of plans etc). So it’s important to switch from “rationally making shit happen” mode during work time to “vibe and see what happens” during family time. This mental switch is hard.