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I am depressed and I need someone to talk to

• eaurouge 14y ago
  If you can disclose which country you're in, there may be support lines you can call for help. Can you get out of the house? Perhaps going for a walk, running, or going to the gym on a regular schedule might help some? Others may chime in on whether any of this is good advice. Going to bed now (it's way past my bedtime), but I'll shoot you an email when I get up. Hang in there, ok?
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• javis 14y ago
  If you can't find anyone to talk to on HN, try posting on http://reddit.com/r/depression http://reddit.com/r/depression. It's a great place to vent and a lot of people there will be happy to Skype or text you.
  • JofArnold 14y ago
    I came here to write the same, and I'm replying to this comment to draw peoples' eyes to it when scanning the replies (in case it doesn't received enough upvotes to take it near the top) as I think it has a lot of value. I'm personally fortunate to be in a good position mental health wise, but I know http://reddit.com/r/depression http://reddit.com/r/depression, http://reddit.com/r/bipolar http://reddit.com/r/bipolar and http://reddit.com/r/bipolarreddit http://reddit.com/r/bipolarreddit have helped my close (non tech friends) a lot and they cannot recommend them highly enough.
  • tomjen3 14y ago
    Also, if it is more serious, try http://reddit.com/r/suicidewatch http://reddit.com/r/suicidewatch It is a great community, with some really nice people.
  • EntendrEntendr 14y ago
    reddit.com/r/suicidewatch is a safe place to post at your most vulnerable, too. The volunteer posters are very supportive. OP, I feel a board dominated by entrepreneurs and type-a hard-charging success hounds isn't the ideal place to get advice about feeling bad from clinical depression. Not that these aren't completely kind people, but there is depression and there is Depression. When you've been abused as a child, you are changed forever in ways that are not even on the same continuum of emotion that, say, not exercising, or going nearly-broke like [insert famous billionaire here]. I probably can't express this effectively through text and I'm not available to chat via Skype at the moment, but: It's okay for you to feel Depressed. As far as emotions can be described as having reasons, you have them. Abuse changes a person forever. Doesn't break them, or make them bad, but it often leads to terrible emotions a lucky majority can't even fathom. You're feeling terrible, don't feel guilty about being injured on top of all that. Actually, injury might be a good metaphor, in that we have an animal instinct to hide away vulnerability and pain. I feel the same way about my "injuries," I don't want to share them because of a stigma of guilt that comes with Depression. One thing I have seen posted (from a quick scan through) is the truth that you won't always feel this way. Things do get better. And then, all too commonly, they get worse again. But that too shall pass.
• hodbby 14y ago
  Be strong.
• jedireza 14y ago
  I really enjoyed 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. If you have not read it yet, the book starts with Eckhart's "I" and "myself" realization... very powerful stuff imo. It's in audio book format too. http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808 http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenmen...
  • MichaelGG 14y ago
    Book also starts off with a mention of how quantum entanglement proves something about "metaphysics".
• TimSchumann 14y ago
  Likewise, sent you an e-mail.
• kfullert 14y ago
  Not sure where you are, here in the UK we have a service called The Samaritans (http://www.samaritans.org/ http://www.samaritans.org/) so not sure if there's a similar service, these people are trained to give you the best help and advice that they can, and someone trained but detached from the specifics may be what's best for you - I've not gone through this myself, but have supported my wife and ex-partners through similar bouts of depression - I'm going to drop you a mail as well.
  • alinajaf 14y ago
    The Samaritans provide a great service, I've used them when going through a few rough spots. Quick note though, the Samaritans definitely do not give advice. Mostly they help you work through your own feelings and figure out what to do on your own.
    • npsimons 14y ago
      Quick note though, the Samaritans definitely do not give advice. Mostly they help you work through your own feelings and figure out what to do on your own. That sounds like the perfect description of a therapist to me.
• david927 14y ago
  I've just emailed you. Keep your head up.
• drdrdr 14y ago
  This is maybe not what you are looking for but someone else might find this useful. Here are two online tools for handling depressions developed by the Australian Centre for Mental Health Research at the Austraian National University. (I haven't tried them myself) MoodGYM: https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome E-couch: https://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome https://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome
  • ryanbraganza 14y ago
    If you're in Australia, call lifeline ( 13 11 14 ) or they have a chat service at particular hours - https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-chat https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-...
    • chris_wot 14y ago
      They are great - I've used Lifeline in the past.
      • hnthrowaway11 14y ago
        I ummed and erred about posting this, as I wouldn't (and don't) want to detract anyone from reaching out to Lifeline. This is strictly an n=1 sample. I disturbingly had a less than great experience with Lifeline the one time I needed some help. Specifically the operator told me she didn't understand my issues or why I was calling. The fact that I had expectations of being able to access an understanding counsellor and had saved them as a last point-of-call when other options were exhausted made this particularly unhelpful. Thought I'd post this as potentially my own expectations made this situation worse (and if I'd read this or other online accounts I might have had lower expectations). Still, I got through that so maybe it was the right thing to tell me.
        • chris_wot 14y ago
          That's surprising... They were very supportive of me :-( I'm surprised! I'm glad to read things got better :-)
• darkhorn 14y ago
  Have ever triedgoing to gym (or working in phisical work (helping a friend)), and consuming paleotic foods (no pizzas). Also, have a girlfriend. Additionally have some friends or relatives to go out or ask them to come to your home.
  • chris_wot 14y ago
    Re: girlfriend - I'm not sure this is wise advise. By all means, find a loving relationship, but don't do it just because you are depressed. That will most likely end in disaster - for both of you!
    • illuminate 14y ago
      But then they can be depressed... AND codependent!
  • druiid 14y ago
    Additionally I will respond here and say that I don't think it's wise advice to recommend a Girlfriend (or boyfriend?) for the original poster. I don't know if you've ever suffered from depression, but you rarely even want to emerge from the house while suffering it. To say that you would be able to function in a loving relationship properly is a long shot indeed. Working out, helpful, changing diet... sometimes helpful. As for having people visit, I would say this would be helpful but would be dependent upon the situations for your depression.
• pedrogrande 14y ago
  I don't know if it'll help but for me, when I enter a depression phase. I wallow in it for a while, enjoy feeling sorry for myself which may go on for days or weeks. But then I get sick of being depressed. I just can't flick a switch and be happy again. I have to go through a whole process. I've learnt a good technique where I just work on being angry. Doesn't matter what about, even just at myself for being depressed. When I get to angry, I'm not feeling despair anymore. I allow myself to focus on being angry for a while but then that turns into frustration. Then I just become annoyed. And before I realise I'm not depressed anymore. I know all that is a lot easier said than done but over the years I have got better at it. Another tool I use is to make a list of 20 things I'm grateful for in my life. At first I can't think of anything, but I make myself work at it and start to remember some good things. Good things that I should be happy about. I realise not everyone's depression is the same but these tools work for me so I thought I'd share.
  • nameiscarl 14y ago
    Fixing your moods by replacing them with something else is pretty smart. And if you manage to have a somewhat healthy something else, you're relatively lucky :)
  • aleprok 14y ago
    For me when I find something to be angry at I feel great for a while and it turns out to frustration and then it starts to depress me and I am now even more depressed about something which I most likely can not help. Though I have learned to live with the depressing stuff without any kind of medication. Mostly I do this by shifting my thoughts about the depressing stuff to something which I find nice. Though too often it is a good movie, but still that is almost two hours break from thinking about the depressive stuff.
  • bgr 14y ago
    "Anger is more useful than despair" - Terminator http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeIy2MHZ0xE http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeIy2MHZ0xE
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  • ashishgandhi 14y ago
    @Everyone: Help me flag this comment. @OP: I've flagged your comment. Hoping you or a moderator sees that you accidentally posted from your not-throwaway account. I could figure out what startup you are a founder of.
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    • verysofttoilet 14y ago
      I wish to see the flagged comment. Why this censorship?
      • illuminate 14y ago
        We can't get all we wish in life, the comment offers you no benefit and potential further harm to the OP.
        • verysofttoilet 14y ago
          You should not be making that decision for me nor the OP. Maybe the comment is actually very valuable, contrary to your beliefs..
          • illuminate 14y ago
            I fail to see how personally identifying information from the OP would help you responsibly diagnose and treat illness over the internet.
• vrajesh5 14y ago
  FOr me the best medicine is to run.. run as hard and as far as you can for as long as you can.. there is nothing that a good run cannot fix... (distance and speed are relative) and please note the situation you are feeling is all chemistry in your head.. they are just chemical reaction.. if you are feeling low because of your startup then please be aware you are not alone.. also, a person is not a failure an event is.. besides the real failure is failing to try and you are not.. stay strong and there is plenty or love and kindness in the world..
• vrajesh5 14y ago
  FOr me the best medicine is to run.. run as hard and as far as you can for as long as you can.. there is nothing that a good run cannot fix... (distance and speed are relative) and please note the situation you are feeling is all chemistry in your head.. they are just chemical reaction.. if you are feeling low because of your startup then please be aware you are not alone.. also, a person is not a failure an event is.. besides the real failure is failing to try and you are not.. stay strong and there is plenty or love and kindness in the world..
• arbuge 14y ago
  If you've been in therapy for 7 years, something tells me that you're unlikely to get the help you need by chatting to somebody anonymous here. See a doctor and get a prescription for an anti-depressant (prozac, etc.). I've heard they can often be very effective in a few days-weeks time, even where years of therapy are not.
  • tdavis 14y ago
    If you'd read the entire message, you'd know he already has many prescriptions.
    • arbuge 14y ago
      Not sure how I missed that. Apologies.
• jonchris 14y ago
  pls try attending Yoga or Art of Living classes. these will help u get rid of issues in natural way. god bless u.
• Techasura 14y ago
  Don't give up. Have a love in life, let her sooth your mind. I have been suffering the same. i'm definitely younger than you, and have this problem.
• lorddfg 14y ago
  lord.dfg <-- this is my Skype. Add me anytime you like, we can chat and hang around. I am a decent listener, I love helping people out and I am great motivator. I do browse Reddit & help out whenever I can but since this is HN I will make an exception just for you. So, cheer up, life isn't over it's never to late to start again. EDIT: anything we talk will be considered confidential. So, you're in safe hands.
• seunosewa 14y ago
  There are some good depression meds out there. See a Psychiatrist for more details.
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  • seunosewa 14y ago
    Sorry. Didn't read the original post properly.
• sweentrepreneur 14y ago
  I dont know your storie and I am not going to give you some advice. I think being an entrepreneur is one of the most psycholic stress work that you can choose. 1. Your identity is often bind with your startup. If your startup failed you feel like you failed, even if you might control 3 out of 10 important parameters. Or you are the best at 9 out of 10 but that 1 out of 10 failed. 2. Like other professions like doctor or lawyer we dont have a big group to relate to. No other entrepreneur is the other s alike. 3. Any d*ckhead can start a company and the difference between genius and beeing crazy is thin. 4. Your reward comes very very late. If you are a consultant, you work one hour get paid one hour. Building the next facebook takes time and the sign of your success can take for ever. 5. Failor is more common than you think. We hear about the success stories but guys that tried and failed just silently start working at a company as employee. 6. Success and feedback for an entrepreneur is rare. Being #1 on HN is not something you can be every day. But if you take out the trash or work as truckdriver you can come home, leave your work and feel pretty good about your self and what you have done. Having great plans increases your of personal failor risk a lot. So what is the solution? I think more about my self as a builder and the projects I do I am aware they might fail, but I focus on me and my methods. Try to fail faster, MVP and all that other stuff Eric talks about in Lean startup. It is not about me or my startup it is about going out and fish, fish for a successful company and every day learn someting and increase my luck exposure bit by bit.
• leonty 14y ago
  Hey, try mindfulness meditation techniques to get in peace with your mind. There's a great guided meditation service for that called Headspace. http://GetSomeHeadspace.com http://GetSomeHeadspace.com For sustainable development of mindfulness I'd also recommend regularly journaling about your feelings though you should discuss it with your therapist first. If you decide to try, there's a good iPhone app called iMoodJournal. You can think you talk to me when you use it because I really put a piece of my soul into it. ;-)
• dubington 14y ago
  Is there anyone in your peer group into startups, at a similar position, that you can collaborate with somehow? Or at least share ideas and experiences? I have found it important to talk to people who share comparable recent experiences and also share immediate future goals. Of course, such a person might be very unusual whereever you are. But perhaps you will find them via this post. Good luck
  • nameiscarl 14y ago
    From what I understand, it may be tough to open up to your teammates when you feel down. After all, in the workplace, you are expected to show leadership, strong will and the power to go through anything. Especially in the ultra competitive world of startups. So I can understand the OP MO here. PS : OPMO is a funny word. PS : and for different reasons, family is sometimes a big no no as well.
• philprx 14y ago
  Best wishes for getting better. One thing that is rare and so important is that you reach out to talk about it. I wish you to find good listeners, this is rare.
• Bigkate 14y ago
  can i suggest Co-Co in one of its many variants. Co-counseling is a peer support therapy process that seems to significant affect for most people. There are wide variety of groups but the two principle groups are re-evaluation co-counseling and international co-counseling. The major difference is that RC co-co is more intense BUT more cult like running out of Seattle whilst ICC is more distributed with no central control. Think Apple vs Linux. it wont give you a solution today, but if you do the course, you will gain access to significant support tools that you can access on an ongoing basis personally I would say RC saved my life, albeit i don't do RC anymore and i now do ICC if you want to look at some texts have a look here http://www.co-cornucopia.org.uk/coco/literature.htm http://www.co-cornucopia.org.uk/coco/literature.htm but there are plenty of other resources available best wishes kate
• morphle 14y ago
  Just send you an email and a Skype address. A founder that can listen. Brave of you to ask, all my best.
• quangv 14y ago
  http://www.liveperson.com/experts http://www.liveperson.com/experts
  • 3rd3 14y ago
    I find this site depressing itself.
• maeon3 14y ago
  Volunteer at your local homeless shelter, they don't contact you, you contact them. Get away from people for a while, unplug from the internet, depression is a psychological process where you determine you have a problem that needs to be fixed, and processing time is needed away from the daily stimulus to figure out what to do to fix it.
  • kaitian521 14y ago
    yes, you can take part in social or charity commitment
  • klibertp 14y ago
    > Volunteer at your local homeless shelter, they don't contact you, you contact them. Please don't. Are you trying to kill the OP or to help him? When at the 'homeless shelter' (or any other such a place, like an institution for drug addicts, elderly people or animal shelter) healthy person tends to eventually appreciate the fact that she's much better off and to see hope in the fact that those people (or animals) thrive despite all the tragedies they were through. It's a good advice for people frustrated because they didn't get their promotion just yet. People in depression in same circumstances can only get worse. The fear of becoming homeless, or an addict, or maltreated animal - however stupid this sounds - will dominate their minds and will worsen their condition almost universally. Worsening depression could be lethal, hence my question at the beginning. In short: whatever you do, as a depressed person, do not surround yourself with pain and suffering and hopelessness. You've got enough of this inside you.
• strictfp 14y ago
  Having gotten myself out of a startup-induced depression I feel for you. Getting out of a depression is never easy, you simply cannot spot the right paths to take you out of there while in it. I can only give you some advice which helped me greatly: 1) Get opinionated. Try to form opinions about everything around you. What do you like or dislike about that lamp post? Which one is your favorite fruit and why? These type of silly exercises is a good way of building up an image of what you want in life. When you know what you want, you can figure out how to achieve it. Being passive is horribly depression-inducing. 2) Participate in life coaching, preferably both individually and in groups. This helped me getting a more objective view of what type of individual I am, how other people see me. But also what other type of personalities there are and how they interact. Knowing all this has helped me view disagreements and conflicts in a new light. I don't have to take myself and everything around me so seriously, since I can see more clearly why things happen as they do. I wish you all the best.
• mvharish 14y ago
  Talk to family, they're always there for you. Go running or biking for ultra long distances. Listen to mongol throat singing.
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• kkk7 14y ago
  Hi stranger, the best remedy I found is tango, no not the one you see in a media, but real, social one. It heals your soul and let your body take care of yourself. When a stranger will embrace you as a normal human being without asking anything back it's a great felling. Go for it.
• X4 14y ago
  I only feel good when my blood pressure is extremly high compared to a normal person. How is your blood pressure when you're happy compared to when you're sad?? I'm really curious if it has an effect on the mood. Because it definately has a dramatic effect on my mood. (It's around >170sys/120dia and higher for me when feeling good) Reference: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0167876012001389 http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0167876012...
  • X4 14y ago
    Most warmly recommended, please do sports or bodybuilding. It helps overcoming the bad feelings!!
    • czbond 14y ago
      This is what gets me through. Heavy weights in the gym clears the mind. Sports gives the adrenaline rush.
  • rauar 14y ago
    Polite advice: You should seriously do something against your high blood pressure. This is not only far from ideal in the long term. This is a dangerous level. No matter if you feel good.
  • cperciva 14y ago
    [Blood pressure is] around >170sys/120dia and higher for me when feeling good) Please ask your GP to refer to you an endocrinologist. This level of elevated blood pressure is directly harmful in the long term; and while I am not a medical doctor, I'm aware of potentially life-threatening endocrine conditions which can both (a) cause elevated blood pressure and (b) make you feel like crap when your blood pressure is not so high. Even if you're not worried about the long-term organ damage you'll suffer, I hope you'll take the risk of imminent collapse seriously.
• spog 14y ago
  I'd say leave everything behind for few days, go find someone who is in need of help and simply help them without expecting anything in return. It could be a poor old lady working in a grocery store hurting her back just to make few bucks or some parent worried about their dying kid.....just go out there and help someone in need of help.
• krycek 14y ago
  Do not trust your feelings when you feel sad about something. Just try to think about the same topic when you feel good. You will see that part of the depression is only body chemicals. That you need to stay confident that life matters. It's like navigating in the fog, you need to find again your points of reference. What you can do too is to write down the reason you feel good when you feel good. Often, being depressed, lead to question everything's worth. When you get to a good conclusion, write it down and read it later when you start wondering again about the same thing. This is another way to create your own points of references. And yes, it is not easy to get through it, but you can do it. Even though, the day you'll get out of it you won't even notice it. Really, it's like being in the fog, sooner or later, sun rises above and peak through. Last but not least, you're doing the right thing : you need to TALK about it. Not to everyone, you need some people not to be aware, just to be able to feel normal with them, but still, talking about it is solving half of the problem. BTW : IMO Meds are the worst thing possible when depressed. I'm no doctor, ofc, but my meds drove me deeper than I was. They destroyed my perceptions and my points of reference.
• matznerd 14y ago
  Depression is a hard feeling to cope with, in the moment it seems like it will never go away, but the truth is, that it always does. One of the things that helps me in the short-term whenever I get down as an entrepreneur is watching videos of successful entrepreneurs because you see that even they have their dark days. Elon Musk, for example, was at his wit's end, almost bankrupt from tesla and space x and could not get further investment and had to literally borrow money from friends to pay his rent. http://www.bloomberg.com/video/73460184-elon-musk-profiled-bloomberg-risk-takers.html http://www.bloomberg.com/video/73460184-elon-musk-profiled-b... I also like watching ted videos on happiness http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy.html http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy.h... (that one has a good point about how nearly everything is based on comparisons and nothing effects us beyond 3 months). In terms of daily inspiration, definitely check mixergy, that will always inspire you as well. http://mixergy.com/homepage/ http://mixergy.com/homepage/ I have to run out now, but I have a lot more to tell you. Exercise is key, whenever I am in a bad mood I realize that it has been too long since I've exercised. Your body will actually generate new neurons while you are exercising and your brain will release endorphins and other neurotransmitters that increase mood. I know it seems hard to get there if you haven't been in a while, but for a longterm goal and short term boosts of energy, definitely do it. You can try to start with a yoga class or something like that, because at the end of the day yoga is mostly meditation and focus on breath. Meditating is also extremely important in welfare for everyone, especially entrepreneurs and founders. The daily stress of running a startup can not only get you down, but also lead to feeling lost. I don't know what drugs you are on, but I can recommend some supplements and nootropics that will definitely elevate mood. Try tyrosine.
  • matznerd 14y ago
    I am running out the door with my family, but I will try and post more later, sorry if there are any grammatical errors in there as well...
  • InclinedPlane 14y ago
    Not everyone's depression is the same. For some people depression is episodic and goes away. For others, a great many others, severe depression is a constant companion. Every minute of every day of every year of your life, and it's the episodes of not being depressed which are temporary and go away. That said, exercise has been shown to be helpful for depression of every sort (generally at least as effective as drugs, on average).
• RockofStrength 14y ago
  “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.” ― John Milton, Paradise Lost
• z0mbak 14y ago
  Travel. Leave your smartphone and laptop at home. Take your friend with you and go. There is a lot of good places on Earth and this is important to choose the right one to visit, so choose wisely. Don't go to safari or similar shitty entrtnmnt for rich guys. Don't buy a tour with all the trash included. Move on your own. Stay in the plain hotels. Taste the local food. Visit the monasteries and museums. Talk to people around You. Try to find something new. Something, You never experienced before. Excuse my poor lng please. P.S. Maybe this will be a good opportunity for You to quit taking meds You mentioned?
  • illuminate 14y ago
    "P.S. Maybe this will be a good opportunity for You to quit taking meds You mentioned?" Suddenly quitting any/all meds for a physical condition without a doctor's advice is probably not the best idea.
    • z0mbak 14y ago
      True, my bad. btw i mentioned monasteries not as just a sightseeing. Who knows...
  • xijuan 14y ago
    I really really really think travelling will help with depression, at least for me...BUT NO MONEY, NO TIME!!!
• ceautery 14y ago
  I occasionally suffer from depression, usually in the winter with low light levels, and usually not debilitating. Some people are easier to talk to about this than others, and it's difficult for me to be honest about how I feel with people I work with, or casual acquaintances... and I think that's more of a problem than being "down" for a day or two. It's sad that there is a need to create a fake identity just to openly talk about a condition you have no control over. In this century, it should be as easy to talk about depression as talking about how you broke your arm, but it's not. And no one wants to be stigmatized, or be afraid of secret HR information passed around about you being crazy and unhireable. Fortunately, you are a hacker, and think differently than the average guy. Maybe you could benefit from one of the things that helps me: split your mind in two... metaphorically. "This situation doesn't call for the amount of rage I feel," is something I say to myself a lot when I should feel disapproval over something, but instead am completely incensed. If I can see intellectually that what I'm feeling is out of scale, then I have something to hold onto while my emotions run their course. Another thing that helps pragmatically, rather than emotionally, is shutting my damned mouth when I see that I'm feeling "off". The things I want to say are hurtful, and will close doors, burn bridges, and make enemies of just about everyone I know, including my wife and children. So I think it, but I don't say it. And I try to do something as a ballast on top of being quiet, like holding my wife's hand, or if I'm not at home, just getting up and walking around. "Um, yeah, I need to go clear my head, and see if that helps with problem X when I get back." Anyway, good luck. If the meds don't help, tell your doctor. Or find a new one. Don't pussyfoot around with doctors when your brain is at stake. "I need something that works, either you can find it for me, or I can find someone else to try. Let's go, chop chop!!" Take care, man, and know that there are other people suffering similarly, struggling to make it. We are all your brothers, and want nothing more than for you to beat this (or manage it, at least) and have a successful life.
  • druiid 14y ago
    Good advice here I would say! The most important part for the poster is the advice about perhaps looking for another doctor, or even further and perhaps might be helpful as well in their situation, to discuss his treatment with the doctor and see about getting another party involved so as to either reinforce what his current doctor was providing, or change it entirely. Further I would say, if he isn't currently receiving both therapy AND psychiatric help, he should be going to both due to the likely reasons behind his depression.
• beingpractical 14y ago
  hey buddy, this might help. Best advice any entrepreneur can ever get! - http://www.beingpractical.com/2012/02/03/best-advice-any-entrepreneur-can-ever-get/ http://www.beingpractical.com/2012/02/03/best-advice-any-ent...
• larrys 14y ago
  "I am in therapy for 7 years now and it is not going anywhere." Reading some of the comments in this thread there seems to be several people that have illustrated "startup induced depression". I think pursuing your dreams ("and not living someone elses life") is great but people should be aware of the downside especially if (as this poster is) they don't have the resilience to deal with the ups and downs of what really amounts to a gamble. Something encouraged by others (and you know who you are) that don't have to suffer the agony of defeat.
• devb0x 14y ago
  If you find you still need a chat, my email in my profile. May the Lord bless you and keep you, and give you peace.
• pGrabber 14y ago
  You have already started the best thing possible - reaching out and speaking up! Additionally, like some of the ppl have suggested, take up any physical activity to take out the stress. I would personally recommend yoga and meditation, they can work wonders. I have had some amazing yoga teachers who will lend you an ear and offer holistic advice and guidance. Also if you are on the East Coast, the winters and snow can be depressing for some people. I used to get out and get some sun to beat the winter blues. Take care and continue to reach out if you need more help.
• ForrestN 14y ago
  Advice from strangers is not going to fix the underlying mental health issues here. 10 pills every day implies a pretty grave situation, one that certainly will not be addressed by exercising or daily inspiration websites. Have you talked to your therapist unambiguously about the stagnation you describe? Have you considered trying to talk to someone else, too, who maybe follows a different approach? I am not a doctor but I imagine that such a high level of pharmaceuticals is probably warping your brain chemistry drastically on its own. If there were a way to dress the problem without so many it seems like that would be ideal. Just keep in mind that this is about the abuse, and not about "startups" or anything going on in your life now. Horrible things happened to you that aren't your fault, and the ways your psychology adapted to those horrible things, ie your current mental health issues, are not your fault either. You need to get help from someone who is really equipped to help you much more than you need help from us. Good luck, and remember that many other people have gone through similar things and come out the other side happy.
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• lucian303 14y ago
  Everyone's situation is different. I think Styron nails it down very well and offers a lot of hope. This book has helped many, including myself when I was down and it's a short read. Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause, sometimes it does. Please give it a read (not intentionally promoting amazon, easiest place to find a link): http://www.amazon.com/Darkness-Visible-Madness-William-Styron/dp/0679643524/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1355674569&sr=1-1&keywords=styron http://www.amazon.com/Darkness-Visible-Madness-William-Styro...
• verysofttoilet 14y ago
  Do you want to get better? Why?
  • klibertp 14y ago
    Do you want to take your hand out of the fire? Why? Maybe because it hurts like hell? Just guessing...
  • illuminate 14y ago
    Knowing, abstractly that there is something wrong with you does not mean that you have the perspective or toolset to fix what is wrong with you.
• richardlblair 14y ago
  Start up life is hard. Probably not the best space for someone who already experiences emotional ups and downs. I would recommend you speak to your therapist about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. A paper published in the American Journal of Psychology last summer (I think it was July?) reported that after 3 months of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy a patient showed improvements that were equal to, if not better than anti-depressants. At the very least this could potentially get you off some of those meds. I hope you feel better soon.
  • karambahh 14y ago
    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy on paper is great, but it does not work with everyone, you have to "blend into it" and apply the advices. Sometimes, it's easier said than done. As many already said, OP needs professional help, from his/her therapist or his/her GP...
    • richardlblair 14y ago
      I agree. This is why i said "I would recommend you speak to your therapist about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy." I simply recommended that he look into it.
• npsimons 14y ago
  First and foremost: find a new therapist. If it's not working, you need to try something else. Even if you've tried different therapists, it's like antidepressants: you keep trying until you find one that works. Speaking of which, you might want to find a psychiatrist or MD who is wiling to try different antidepressants; 10 pills a day and no effect? That sounds like the exact case of "this one's not working, let's try another". If the only thing you take away from this is the above paragraph, good, because I have to preface the rest of this with IANA[P|MD]. First and foremost, founding your own startup is awesome! Do you realize what kind of accomplishment that is? You shouldn't be depressed, you should be proud. Not many people can claim the title of "statup founder". Second, apart from getting a new therapist, you might want to look into books like "Feeling Good" by David Burns and "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis. Both are aimed at helping overcome depression. Exercise is good, but the effects may taper off over time (or have no effect at all). Mainly, if you're not exercising, you should, but not necessarily to treat the depression (although it might help). All that being said, good on you for reaching out! While I don't think I have the skills to help you or experiences to relate, I hope you are successful, and I'm sure you will be. Many people have been depressed (myself included), but recovered; you can do it too.
• barackwillheal 14y ago
  stop taking the pills for one.
  • illuminate 14y ago
    Potentially dangerous advice when you do not know what pills they are taking.
• stevewillows 14y ago
  One thing I am learning about is regulating my sleep pattern and eating consistent meals. This is tough with a startup, but it really helps. Another nice thing hat I've started to do is collect things that make me happy. When I get down I look in the box. Like others have said, try a new therapist.
  • oxide 14y ago
    Seriously OP, this is the best advice. I know it may sound silly, but if you're sleeping well and eating well, you will notice an improved quality of life
• ChrisNorstrom 14y ago
  Depression is caused by so many different things for different people. I don't know you or your situation, but here's what really helped me finally leave years and years of on/off depression: - Are you getting enough sunlight? - Are you exercising? - Do you live in an extremely stressful environment / city? - Do you live near greenery and vegetation or a cold concrete jungle? - When was the last time you took a vacation? - If you're an introvert do you have enough time alone to yourself? If you're an extrovert do you spend enough time with others or are you isolated? You'd be amazed at how external solutions can help motivate internal ones.
  • manmal 14y ago
    Some missing sunlight can be replaced by artificial vitamin D. I sometimes felt depressed in winter, and taking about 4000 IUs daily has completely done away with that, without going outside more often.
    • tubbo 14y ago
      Wow, I'll have to try this. I really feel like as soon as I started programming for a living I just have not been outside enough.
    • CamperBob2 14y ago
      tubbo, you appear to be hellbanned, fyi.
• lynne 14y ago
  i love you. i think you're great. never give up. :)
• andrewtbham 14y ago
  Call the national suicide prevention hotline. I volunteered at one for years, most people that call are not really suicidal (maybe 2%). The callers are typically depressed. 1-800-273-8255
• nibz 14y ago
  Bashing is senseless especially considering the state of the country right now. If you need someone to talk to feel free to Gchat me at kyle@nibletz.com if you need more than that lets talk on gchat (you can email me at that address as well) and perhaps we can exchange phone numbers. I didn't read beyond a few of the responses. Whether this is a legitimate cry for help or just someone who needs an emotional pick me up to get through how hard startup life can be don't hesitate to contact me -Kyle
• infoseckid 14y ago
  Dude what you need is a break from everything - power off your laptop + mobile + tablet + anything electronic. Take a vacation for a month - ..... I am in a bad depression myself even though I am making good money from my startup but due to other personal reasons. I am planning to go to Bali for a month.
• dahart 14y ago
  Exercise! It doesnt solve relationship or abuse problems, but it will improve your mood. Thirty minutes of exercise a day is just as effective as any medication.
• ponce 14y ago
  I would advise to search energically for _root causes_ for your illness, have a lucid stare at your life and ask yourself why you feel bad now. Perhaps you have missing information. (edit: attention this may lead to extremely discomfortable transitional states)
• kaa2102 14y ago
  I applaud your desire to seek out help (and your creativity). I am clearly not a professional but depression is an evolutionary response to loss, trauma, and/or change. The mind realizes that the current map of reality is off. Ultimately, as Dr. Peck wrote in The Road Less Traveled: "life is difficult". There are many problems to be solved in the journey of life. Life is about solving problems and things can get a bit brighter when we decide to become active problem solvers. I think that you actually may have made progress in therapy because of the mere fact that you stuck with it for 7 years. You may be further on your journey than you realize. I wish you the best of luck.
• robomartin 14y ago
  PLEASE GET PROFESSIONAL HELP FROM ANOTHER DOCTOR RIGHT AWAY. Here's the framework I see; recent startup founder + therapy for seven years + abused as a child + ten pills per day. This alone screams for professional help. I don't think that a fellow entrepreneur can help solve all of your problems. There's also the danger of making it worst because of not having any training on how to deal with your framework. Now to be a little helpful: What I don't see is a description of your circumstances beyond that: - How old are you? - Where do you live? (city) - Do you live alone? - Do you work where you live or do you get up in the morning to go to another location? - Do you have family nearby? - Are they supportive in any way? - Do you have other friends outside of the startup? - What does your day look like? - Do you or have you had any hobbies? - Do you spend a lot of time playing games? - If you do. Are you affected emotionally by the game's outcome? - What do you eat and when? - Are you overweight? - If so. How do you feel about it? - Do you have a girfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband? - If so. How is that relationship? - What's your financial situation? - What are your goals? - How quickly did you expect to achieve these goals? - What does your work environment look like? (dark, light, windows, comfortable, etc.) - What does your daily work routine look like? - Is there a routine? - What do you do in the weekends? - Who do you socialize with outside of work? - Do you drink? The list isn't exhaustive. I am not a therapist, not even close. As an entrepreneur I have navigated depression from time to time. It can be ugly and paralyzing. It also is very personal. That's why a lot more information is needed to really understand you and how you go in and out of that state. From personal experience I can tell you that it helps to have what I have come to call "non-maskable interrupts". In my case this came in the form of my kids. It's pretty hard to focus on being miserable when your little one's push and pull you into their world. It's great. If you don't have this option then you have to find another interrupt source. This means focusing your energy and thoughts on another activity not related to work. Martial arts class can be great. A good class can dissolve away the stress of a days' worth of troubles within a short hour. On top of that you are getting exercise which by itself should make you feel better. Gyms can suck. If you can find a friend who'd like to go to the gym with you this could be a good exercise + social option. Swimming. If you don't know how to swim, join a group and learn. I don't know if you are in the US or not. In the US there's something called US Masters Swimming (usmg.org). They have groups everywhere. Sign-up and get in a pool. For me, there's nothing like swimming a 1500m or 3000m run. I come out of the pool like a newborn. Get a dog. The therapeutic value of dogs is well proven. Also, puppies, just like kids, have a unique ability to shift your mind's focus away from you and onto them. Research the breed a little. If you are the type, get into training. I have always had German Shepherd Dogs and have always enjoyed training them (research: schutzhund). GSD's are not for everyone. A good pet dog like a Labrador could do wonders for you. There are professional organizations that deal in therapy dogs who can advise you based on your circumstances and needs. Notice that every suggestion I've made involves disconnecting from work and strongly focusing your energy and attention elsewhere. Physical, outdoor and social activities being another common theme. I couldn't possibly relate to your child abuse experience or the years of therapy and medicine. I am fortunate in that I have not had to experience any of this. That said, it sure sounds like you need to pivot and go talk to a different therapist. Your current on doesn't seem to be helping you much. I am one of those people who will do the impossible NOT to introduce any drugs into my body unless there's absolutely no other option. I could not imagine taking ten pills a day just to be able to function. There has to be another way. Not being a therapist I don't really know if talking to others about your problems will help you or push you deeper into a more dangerous state. That's why I am not inclined to offer to contact you via email. It is very easy to justify feeling worst and use someone else as a bouncing board for those feelings. I really think you need to find a new therapist to talk to immediately. Then, of course, there's the tough love approach. Unless you suffer from a fundamental chemical imbalance your condition is one that is entirely fabricated by your brain. As such, you can --and should learn to-- control it. I did this with anxiety attacks. They can be nasty. Once you understand how to recognize and deal with the symptoms you can literally talk yourself out of one (or prevent entering it in the first place). This is where I'll be cheesy and quote Yoda: "Your Focus Determines Your Reality". Print that and tape it where you can see it. What are you focusing on? What reality will that produce? Is that what you want? No? Then change your focus. The techniques can be simple. If you recognize that you are sliding into a self-lamenting state, get up and go for a brisk walk. Turn up the music. Fucking yell "I am not doing this!". Dance. Do jumping jacks. Whatever it takes. Force your brain to re-focus on something positive. I wish you the best. This is tough. Reaching out is good. Go get different help. Get a dog. Go swimming. Re-focus. ABOVE ALL: YOU DEFINITELY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP. YOUR CURRENT THERAPIST IS MISSING SOMETHING. PIVOT. GO TALK TO SOMEONE ELSE. GO TALK TO SEVERAL THERAPISTS AND FIND THE BEST ONE.
• helpingstranger 14y ago
  Hey far_far_away, I feel for you. I've been battling depression every single day for the last 14 years. And most people don't realize this when they see me as the happiness guy in the room. But the analytical-startup-side of me has kept a log of every day, of what works and what doesn't work to change my behavior and mood. Here's what I've found and I hope this helps: When I'm happy: - It's when I've written up some code, and feel accomplished - I've had realistic expectations (of when I finish a project, what I expect from social gatherings, etc) - I'm not so stressed (and this comes from sleeping on time, doing things in moderation) When I'm close to being suicidal: - I have high stress levels - My plans are not working out as expected (read unrealistic expectations) - There has been no balance of work/play (say I oversleep, read HN all day and feel unaccomplished) What to take away from this: It comes down to stress and expectations. Sleeping early (even though I'm a night owl, and produce great code at night) makes a difference. When you live in the suburbs and no one's there to talk to at night, it really does suck, when the whole town sleeps at 6am. I've gone through several therapists, but the analytical side of me wants to figure out this challenge for myself. It sucks, I know. But maybe for now, write down all that you're thinking, watch a movie, play some video games, and take time to yourself, to enjoy, to be happy. And set your phone's wallpaper to "Life is good. Be happy." (I emailed you the wallpaper). It's just one of those life hacks when you wake up, when you retreat from the world, and decline to answer someone's phone-call, you see your wallpaper, and it rewires your brain into associating certain actions with a positive mood. Know that the change won't come overnight, and know that your actions affect everyone around you. I started looking outward and praying for others, when that put less focus on me, less stress on my startup, and less stress on relationships. Sorry for the rambling. Remember the power to bring change to the world is in any one person's hands - it could be yours - you can see it as a burden or an opportunity - take care of yourself and be easy.
• zackmorris 14y ago
  I want to write something about my depression. I don't have a chemical imbalance and am not on medication. I basically self medicate with beer, probably too often. I've battled depression since my mid teens, going on this long crusade to be "successful" (whatever that means), trying to meet girls, working odd jobs that weren't in line with my degree, sort of living an antiauthoritarian hacker lifestyle that might sound familiar. Anyway, one thing I've learned that's helped me largely overcome it is that things change. The world is a lot bigger than you are. My depression was largely caused by isolation, spending too much time in my own mind, trying to fix big problems that nobody else could see. Most of my days were filled with this ongoing saga of trying to solve programming problems or money problems or political problems, but the common theme is that I always failed to really "solve" anything, and felt like my life was a kind of revolving door, every day was the same, rinse, repeat. So the last two years I was unemployed, maybe earning $6,000 a year and making up the rest by borrowing or selling things on eBay, all the time living under about $40,000 worth of debt and student loans. I had a falling out with my business partner after making a somewhat notable Mac game. Then all at once two months ago, a good friend I grew up with got me a contracting job earning six figures, depending on how long the contract lasts. I'm not making this up. I hesitate to say I love my job, that's an awfully strong word, but it's certainly not terrible. I have that sense that I should have tried it a decade ago. I've done all kind of things, I worked out for years and got ripped, I womanized, I snowboarded, I traveled, I visited my father in the third world and fixed some family bonds, I bought a house with my girlfriend, I bought the truck I always wanted from Back to the Future, and got a puppy. This was in the years before I started my job, when I was depressed. In fact, in some ways I think I was more effective when I had nothing going for me. Now by bank account has more than $100 in it for the first time in years, I'm still relatively young, I have my health. But I know in my heart that I didn't really do any of this. Life is a dream. I'm still the same old fraud I always was, bumbling along like all the other morons. What I'm trying to say is that even though the universe reconfigured itself around me for some reason, I'm still not really sure why, I'm still haunted by the same existential questions that have always bothered me. Even if I had a million dollars, I would still be unable to achieve the things I really want to see in this life like meeting aliens or curing death or talking to a sentient computer, that are unlikely to happen anytime soon. There is always another reason to feel gypped. And it's not like I ever had a need for money anyway other than to get people to leave me alone. Basically the cultural framework we've all built around us, concepts like money and achievement, being in the zone, selflessness, love, are all a distraction. There's just you, interacting with this strange reality that is both insubstantial and more clever than you could ever conceive of. The universe doesn't care that you're depressed. It keeps trying things to test you and taunt you and nobody knows why. I guess what I'm trying to get at is that there's no magic bullet like pills or diet or exercise that will make you feel not depressed. I think of depression as misdirected free will, and only because you feel bad because of it, there's nothing inherently wrong with it in and of itself, and I think most people have felt it even if they're in denial about it. If you think of the things that make you feel bad, and what it would be like to let them go, ask yourself why you don't do it. For example, if bills have got you down, have you tried not paying them yet. If work is bumming you out, have you tried quitting. If you don't feel loved in your relationship, have you taken a break. I tried checking out of my responsibilities several times over the last decade, and although it didn't fix my depression, it gave me some breathing room to meditate on why I was still unhappy. It's kind of nice to feel that people needed you and were relying on you, and I didn't feel all that bad that I let them down. At least not as bad as I expected to. I assume that anyone reading Hacker News is a highly effective person, so if you find that you are unable to perform at the level that you know you can, then something is wrong, and it could very well be something outside of yourself. Sometimes the universe needs signals that you are unhappy so that it can recalibrate its approach and give you something more to your liking. I've sort of begun to take a philosophical view of all of this, that somehow our collective consciousness forms the reality around us, and that we have a responsibility to be true to ourselves so that we can contribute something beyond our basic survival to the soup. You could literally fail today, completely and utterly, and wake up tomorrow with an opportunity you couldn't have possibly foreseen. Then the real kicker is that when you look around at the seemingly improbable configuration of the world, it seems that this is actually the general nature of things. I look at it as, the only real responsibility any of us has is to keep living, and by just doing that, it gives the universe a stage to play on. I take it a step further, that when it's my time to expire, that I'll be reincarnated before I can blink in another arrangement of atoms somehow sentient enough to comprehend its own existence. But I don't want to get into religion. I'm just saying that to think that we can somehow end our consciousness may very well be a fallacy. We may have spent a million generations as amoebas and sea cucumbers to reach this level of sophistication, and there are no guarantees that the next life will be any more fulfilling than this one. We have billions of years of evolution at our fingertips and we don't even realize the power it gives us. We sit around feeling sorry for ourselves like a Greek tragedy and fool ourselves into thinking that this is all there is. It's really quite extraordinary. So I hope that all of you keep living and doing what you do so I have something to do while I'm trapped is this crazy reality too. P.S. Almost deleted this just now. Then decided to leave it. Serendipity and all that.
• susan31415 14y ago
  I'm so glad you decided to reach out - that is very brave even when done anonymously because you don't know what the response will be. I'm particularly impressed at this choice because of your childhood abuse making it so much harder to trust other human beings. I have also had extensive childhood abuse (neglect, emotional, physical, sexual) and have been diagnosed with severe PTSD. This includes depression, anxiety, and a lot of unhealthy behaviors that are hard to change. I've made a lot of progress over the last year (after many years of suffering silently) so I have hope for you too. I am speaking to the abuse piece because very few people have talked about that (perhaps even more of a taboo subject than depression). Lots of great advice here (mixed in with a few who don't get the difficulty you face). My best advice is (1) never give up - if you keep trying different things, eventually you will find the right combination of things that work for you. (2) don't blame yourself for where you are at - horrible people / situations completely beyond your control brought you to this point in your life. And good news, you are an adult now, and there are actually helpful caring loving people who can help you heal. It is really good news that you survived and found a way to be successful against all odds. You are stronger than you think you are. You can make decisions now to help yourself even though as a child you could not. There is hope for change because you have lots of resources (including many offered here and within yourself) to change your circumstances. I know you are on a long hard road - just as I am. But, healing is possible for you. I have quite an extensive list of things I've tried and am a really good listener so I'll send you an email in case you want to talk. Two things to mention: find another therapist who perhaps does another kind of therapy all together (instead of CBT - which is probably what you are doing), try insight oriented, DBT, brainspotting (my favorite - similar to EMDR), meditation, body work, trauma exposure therapy). Be bold and ask your therapist for a change and a recommendation. Most professionals understand that they can't help anyone and can point you in the right direction for a different approach. Secondly, keep reaching out even when it seems impossibly hard because of the depression. Isolation is your enemy. Find people who will understand and support you. Seriously consider a support group in your area. Meeting face to face confidentially with other people suffering like you can be the most uplifting experience (way more heart warming than talking to a therapist). Everyone is different just keep trying different things until you find what works for you. No one should be telling you that this one thing is guaranteed to solve your problems - you get to tell yourself what helps and what doesn't.
• Mz 14y ago
  You can email me if you like. I would encourage you to seek out nondrug alternatives and gradually reduce the number/amounts of meds. My personal firsthand experience with therapy is that it can be useful for insight but won't likely cure what ails you. You need people in your life who genuinely care about you. You cannot pay someone to genuinely care. That may be why therapy isn't helping: You weren't loved/cared about as a kid and your therapist is unlikely to care enough to take that pain away. There is only so much progress you can make based on intellectual insight. Best of luck, whatever you decide.
• ASDFGHJKLQWE 14y ago
  Jesus loves you.
• aneth4 14y ago
  The best medicine for depression is to imagine you were not depressed, think of what you would do, then do it. Even if it doesn't feel quite right, keep moving. It is not always easy, but it is always the best way to move forward. Depression is a dangerous cycle. Therapy can be helpful, but it can also be debilitating by causing you to identify with your depression. The best thing a therapist can do is to push you to follow the advise above.
  • DanBC 14y ago
    (I am not a doctor, this is not medical advice.) Depression is not one illness with one cause and one method of treatment. Our knowledge of mental illness is pretty poor. Since depression can be a fatal illness (and even when not fatal it can be debilitating and lead to awful life outcomes) we need to be careful when offering advice. > The best medicine for depression is to imagine you were not depressed, think of what you would do, then do it. Even if it doesn't feel quite right, keep moving. I say this as politely and gently as I can: this is terrible advice for many people. I'm not suggesting that people with depression should be cocooned and protected from everything; that's often harmful. But we need to remember that many people with depression have distorted thinking, and thus asking them to focus on what they would be like if they didn't have depression could cause them very great harm. > Therapy can be helpful, but it can also be debilitating by causing you to identify with your depression. I agree that some therapies are terrible. Non-specific counselling is usually awful and does nothing to help, and can make things worse. But some therapy really does work for some people, effectively curing them or giving them techniques to deal with the illness when it strikes. Notably, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy has good evidence for its effectiveness. We're still muddling along with pharmacology - there are a raft of different SSRIs / SNRIs / NASAs / etc, and then tricyclics, and then MAOIs. There's some evidence of effectiveness, many people report remarkable changes. But still, we don't know how these meds work, and we don't know how to find better meds. And some people will not find relief even with good therapy provided by skilled therapists, or with medication, and so they might try one of the more extreme treatments. ECT is still used. It's very different now from the portrayals in popular media (One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest is set in 1963) - people are sedated and it's used much less often. I've met a few people who've had it. Some of them loved it and welcomed it, and were keen for the treatment to continue. Others didn't like it, and opted out of further treatments. If you have depression, and you find something that works for you, that's great. And it's great that you share that information with other people. But please put disclaimers on it. "This is something I tried. I think it worked for me." And please don't make declarations of efficacy unless you have decent research to back it up.
• yevuard 14y ago
  Service. Most of the details are withheld for privacy reasons, but what worked for one person with severe clinical depression - to the extent that she lived in the government mental hospital on constant suicide watch - could work for you also. She volunteered to help (after putting it off for years), and her attitude and depression vanished over a short period of time. This is one person's tale, and may not work for you.
• d0m 14y ago
  Feel free to drop me a line (My email is in my profile), I'm a great listener.
• j0x 14y ago
  their is hope in the near future for a better and safe anti-depressant drug see this - http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-12-drug-hard-to-treat-depression-brain-receptors.html http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-12-drug-hard-to-treat-dep...
• advocacysusie 14y ago
  If you are in the US, you can call 211 and they will give you a local/state hotline to call. Consider using this if you need to talk and therapist is not available.
• tippivenus 14y ago
  First and foremost, if you feel you might hurt yourself you need to go to an emergency room immediately. Second, what meds are you on and what kind of doctor prescribed them. If they were not prescribed by a board certified psychiatrist who specializes in psychopharmacology then I would see another doctor. It is not at all unusual for severe depression to require multiple meds but you have to have a doc who is good put the right cocktail together. Three, I would recommend a psychiatrist for therapy as well. Social workers and psychologists can be good but there are also a lot of really bad ones out there. If you are thinking of changing therapists, meet with a few and go with one that has good credentials that you feel a connection with. Four, as a survivor of abuse there are a number of support groups out there which might be helpful. Five, and probably most important: Don't give up!!!! Depression sucks but it does tend to be self limiting.
• TheBDH 14y ago
  I feel you. There's one thing to try: Find somewhere close to nature (a lake, a park, a beach, a garden) and sit there everyday in silence and just use your senses (the eyes, ears etc.) to experience what you are in the midst of. Don't think. Try to stop thinking. Just feel. I go to the beach every day to see the sun set. Some days to see the sea as the sun rises. Over months now, the effect has been unusual. Remember to just feel. You'll find a million thoughts (problems, memories, people etc.) trying to barge in. Try to push them out. You may yourself thinking that there could be better or more useful ways to spend your time. You may feel restless. Don't force it, but allow these to pass and just feel. See, listen, touch, here...avoid tasting however. It's risky. Don't stop anything else you're doing without professional advice. Add this, and if you manage to make it a daily commitment, you may experience what I have. I look forward to a difference. Take care!
• sjg007 14y ago
  Hey, if your startup fails, just can always find work at another company. There is still a future. It is OK to fail, it is OK to feel depressed. You are not the value of your startup. Depression is hard and it hurts. You can actually rewire your neural pathways. Therapists can help with this. It gets better.
• sairam313 14y ago
  Sorry to hear about your problem. Three thoughts that hopefully can help you 1. Heard this from a Vietnamese Buddhist Monk on depression that made a lot of sense to me: "Nothing can grow without food - stop feeding your depression and start feeding something that you want for yourself - health, wellness, happiness" 2. Another good advise I heard from a noble guy on depression - get out of yourself and try to do something good for someone else. you will see something shift inside you and you will feel better. Service is something that can instantly get you out of your depression 3. Try to find a community where you can visit and interact with people. Human contact and personal interaction (not online) can make a lot of difference Hope this helps and good luck SKR
• Crake 14y ago
  I don't really have a lot of guidance to offer you, OP, but I sympathize with your situation and hope that someone else is able to help you in the way that you need. Best of luck.
• takeaction 14y ago
  Keep your head up! Exercise and proper nutrition helps! Surround yourself with positive people :)