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I'm adding this to my list of counter examples, for when some tries to tell me I have to get my life together before I'll find a girlfriend.

• GuiA 14y ago
  It's something that we hear a lot. My naive non-american mind believes that it's not about finding a girlfriend, but finding the right person. It's preferable to have your life together for the former, but I'm not sure it makes much of a difference for the latter.
  • onnn 14y ago
    > My naive non-american mind Does this sentiment not exist where you are from?
    • sp332 14y ago
      My mother's family traveled all over Europe while she was growing up, and she picked a new boyfriend in each new school. She told me, she just never really considered not having a boyfriend, even if everyone involved knew it was pretty temporary. So it's not a purely US thing.
      • GuiA 14y ago
        Well, the romantic relationships you have in middle/high school are quite different from the ones you cultivate in college and later in life; my point referred more to the latter.
    • GuiA 14y ago
      Definitely not as much. In my experience, people in the US in their 20s (both during and post university) tend to be more in the mindset "I want a relationship" (and they're actively looking for one, using dating sites, personal networks, etc.) or "I don't want a relationship" (in which case they actively avoid it); whereas in France and European countries, people tend to be more neutral by default and then hop into a relationship when the right person comes along. Those are just my observations though- they could well be skewed.
      • Crake 14y ago
        That's really interesting.