Children are a severe puzzle. What can we tell mothers like this? Is there a long-term self-care situation for a child that misbehaves, even if his IQ is "130"

Children are a severe puzzle. What can we tell mothers like this? Is there a long-term self-care situation for a child that misbehaves, even if his IQ is "130"? Do we tell her to modify her expectations—that no test can change his disabilities? Or do we embrace the neurotypical? At low expense the taxpayer can pay people to study kids like these and build an environment where their "high IQ" can thrive. We are weird with children in this country. Our constitution does not establish any interest, state or federal, in them. We have gun rights and not children's livelihood rights. We abrogate responsibility of the hard question—treat like disabled or treat like special genius—to fallible and powerless parents. The discussion is not, What do we do with moms or guns? It's what do we do with children.