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Remember how those first few weeks of college were intensely social. You meet a lot of people you'll know the rest of your life. It's a critical time. I recomme
by nealabq 14y ago
Remember how those first few weeks of college were intensely social. You meet a lot of people you'll know the rest of your life. It's a critical time. I recommend:
Social > academic. But they're intertwined, so work hard, and work with others in your core area. Be helpful and smart and humble. Don't worry about your non-core subjects (let others help you).
Don't go nuts with freedom. Go to parties, but drink very little, avoid drugs, don't get caught up in sex. It's fun, but save it for later.
Don't go back home. Don't have a girlfriend back home. Don't have a girlfriend at all, this is a time for lots and lots of friends.
Avoid toxic people.
- objclxt 14y ago> "Don't have a girlfriend at all, this is a time for lots and lots of friends" You seem to be suggesting the two are incompatible, but in my experience that's not really the case at all...
- aes256 14y agoOf course being in a relationship and having other friends are not incompatible, but the time commitment, reordering of priorities, strain on your mental/physical/pecuniary resources will almost inevitably harm your relationships with other friends. Not to mention being in a relationship with someone can lead to profound changes in a person's character, and those changes may not gel with existing friends...
- stretchwithme 14y agoFor some it works that way, but others find a partner helps them entertain and communicate. Even sending out the Christmas cards is a lot more likely.
- usaar333 14y agoWait, GP is talking just about the first few weeks of college right? If so, I can see some truth to this. I can't think of anytime in your life you'll ever again not only have no commitments, but also be surrounded by so many people who haven't yet formed (social) relationships. Makes sense to 100% focus on meeting people and building friendships -- it only gets harder going forward.
- mbesto 14y agoGo to parties, but drink very little, avoid drugs, don't get caught up in sex. It's fun, but save it for later. Don't have a girlfriend at all, this is a time for lots and lots of friends. I personally think the opposite. It's your 20s, enjoy it while it lasts.
- csmattryder 14y agoTotally agree, everything in moderation, though. I'd rather live with the regret of 'Oh I wish I hadn't done this/that/the other' than being 50 and looking back on my life regretting I didn't enjoy myself more.
- dinkumthinkum 14y agoSpeak to people over 60, they generally regret what they didn't do than what they did.
- philwelch 14y agoPeople who don't live to 60 generally would have regretted things they did rather than things they didn't.
- dinkumthinkum 14y agoObviously, if you want to live as a simple cog there's no one stopping you. :)
- raverbashing 14y agoI'd say, enjoy it, just be safe (don't endanger yourself) And drugs are bad mmmkay. (I don't advocate, still, let's hope people know what's their limit) Except the 'don't have a girlfriend' part, do have a girlfriend!
- dhughes 14y agoHealth can rapidly fail and if you are unhealthy at 25 you'll be dead by 40. Be as healthy as you can as early as you can because it doesn't get easier as you get older or have a family. Bad habits are cumulative, you can't fix poor health just by stopping certain habits.
- sliverstorm 14y agoDon't have a girlfriend back home Possibly one of my biggest regrets. I don't know that things would have worked out better otherwise, but objectively speaking it was one of my most foolish mistakes.
- dinkumthinkum 14y agoI would say avoid all of this advice altogether. Make questionable decisions, having dramatic relationships, don't be a bore. :) I mean it's one thing if all you want is for you to have a long life of just 9-5 mundane, workaday life. But that's not for everyone.