Yes the whole thing seems literally childish (like a 6 year old perhaps) and they could have grabbed a coffee and have both sides explain their point of view an

Yes the whole thing seems literally childish (like a 6 year old perhaps) and they could have grabbed a coffee and have both sides explain their point of view and come up with a solution. And the solution space here is huge. Upvote for "pyrrhic victory" that is perfectly what this is.