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No. Why should I find you repulsive? You might find something I wrote interesting. Then whatever public info there is on me helps you to get to know me a bit b

by antics9 2mo ago

No. Why should I find you repulsive? You might find something I wrote interesting. Then whatever public info there is on me helps you to get to know me a bit better. You may stop there and forget about me, or you may try to reach out. There is nothing wrong about that.

Razengan 2mo ago
> Why should I find you repulsive? Me googling your shit might lead to your real name, your family photos etc Just because it's all public doesn't mean you want the cashier from the supermarket following you around to your family picnic or just because you like to let the sunlight in doesn't mean you want random pedestrians peering in through your windows.. I can't believe this needs to be spelled out here: "Public" life is compartmentalized.
- Permit 2mo ago
  > Just because it's all public doesn't mean you want the cashier from the supermarket following you around to your family picnic. This has never happened to me. Out of the space of “bad things that can happen to me” I don’t have time to worry about things with such a small probability of occurring.
  - exe34 2mo ago
    I think if you're a fat middle aged man, it's not likely to happen to you personally. But you must have daughters, nieces, a mother, or some sort of female presence in your life. It happens to people like them.
    - akoboldfrying 2mo ago
      It's more likely to happen a woman than to a man, but it's still very unlikely to happen to a woman.
      - defrost 2mo ago
        Very unlikely? An estimated 2.7 million Australian adults have experienced stalking since the age of 15, according to new results from the 2021-22 Personal Safety Survey (PSS) released today by the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS). William Milne, ABS head of crime and justice statistics, said “We found one in five women and one in 15 men have been stalked. “Women were almost eight times more likely to be stalked by a male than by a female, while men were stalked by a male and by a female at a similar rate.” ~ https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/1-7-australians-have-been-stalked https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/1-7-austr...
      - exe34 2mo ago
        At about 1 in 5, it's probably happened to somebody in your family.
  - mrheosuper 2mo ago
    But it has happened to other people. A stalker in Japan geo-located victim location from the reflection in the eye from public picture
- satvikpendem 2mo ago
  Don't put on the Internet what you don't want found as it's always and forever public, I thought everyone knew the first rule.
  - Razengan 2mo ago
    Oh boy. It's NOT about whether something's "public" or not: It's about someone "connecting the dots" between ALL your public activities. Someone following you OUTSIDE their "space" that you visited and then invading your other spaces. People don't usually want to mix their social circles. e.g. nobody likes a snoopy overprotective parent following their [teen] kids around wherever the children go with their friends. Nobody likes their spouse coming uninvited on a night out with the guys/gals. Or, when you reply to someone on HN or Reddit, and they don't like what you say about 1 specific topic, then they go and downvote ALL your comments about everything else you said! That's perfectly legal. It's allowed. Nothing's stopping it. And hey, you commented publicly so you were "asking for it", right? BUT IT'S A FUCKING DICK MOVE
    - satvikpendem 2mo ago
      Someone would only be able to connect the dots based on what you publicly put out there. If you don't put anything out, there's nothing to connect the dots, unless you buy some sort of dark web leaked dataset. None of your analogies are comparable to online public information because you decide what to put out online, and I never said anything about legality so not sure why you bring that up.
      - esseph 2mo ago
        > unless you buy some sort of dark web leaked dataset Customers of such datasets: banks, insurance companies, HR companies, marketing firms, governments, etc.
      - iamnothere 2mo ago
        You don’t necessarily decide what to put online. Friends may upload photos of you, data brokers make your information available to “people search” websites, if you buy a house your information is available unless you put it in a blind trust, etc. If you go beyond the web to private services then you have companies like Flock and retailers who use facial recognition, who make their data available to subscribers and partners. Disturbed people with access to this data can use it to harm people, like the Ebay exec who stalked a critic or the occasional police officer who stalks a romantic interest.
fuzzfactor 2mo ago
>Why should I find you repulsive? There could be a number of reasons. Am I not trying hard enough?

by antics9 2mo ago

Razengan 2mo ago

> Why should I find you repulsive? Me googling your shit might lead to your real name, your family photos etc Just because it's all public doesn't mean you want the cashier from the supermarket following you around to your family picnic or just because you like to let the sunlight in doesn't mean you want random pedestrians peering in through your windows.. I can't believe this needs to be spelled out here: "Public" life is compartmentalized.

Permit 2mo ago
> Just because it's all public doesn't mean you want the cashier from the supermarket following you around to your family picnic. This has never happened to me. Out of the space of “bad things that can happen to me” I don’t have time to worry about things with such a small probability of occurring.
- exe34 2mo ago
  I think if you're a fat middle aged man, it's not likely to happen to you personally. But you must have daughters, nieces, a mother, or some sort of female presence in your life. It happens to people like them.
  - akoboldfrying 2mo ago
    It's more likely to happen a woman than to a man, but it's still very unlikely to happen to a woman.
    - defrost 2mo ago
      Very unlikely? An estimated 2.7 million Australian adults have experienced stalking since the age of 15, according to new results from the 2021-22 Personal Safety Survey (PSS) released today by the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS). William Milne, ABS head of crime and justice statistics, said “We found one in five women and one in 15 men have been stalked. “Women were almost eight times more likely to be stalked by a male than by a female, while men were stalked by a male and by a female at a similar rate.” ~ https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/1-7-australians-have-been-stalked https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/1-7-austr...
    - exe34 2mo ago
      At about 1 in 5, it's probably happened to somebody in your family.
- mrheosuper 2mo ago
  But it has happened to other people. A stalker in Japan geo-located victim location from the reflection in the eye from public picture
satvikpendem 2mo ago
Don't put on the Internet what you don't want found as it's always and forever public, I thought everyone knew the first rule.
- Razengan 2mo ago
  Oh boy. It's NOT about whether something's "public" or not: It's about someone "connecting the dots" between ALL your public activities. Someone following you OUTSIDE their "space" that you visited and then invading your other spaces. People don't usually want to mix their social circles. e.g. nobody likes a snoopy overprotective parent following their [teen] kids around wherever the children go with their friends. Nobody likes their spouse coming uninvited on a night out with the guys/gals. Or, when you reply to someone on HN or Reddit, and they don't like what you say about 1 specific topic, then they go and downvote ALL your comments about everything else you said! That's perfectly legal. It's allowed. Nothing's stopping it. And hey, you commented publicly so you were "asking for it", right? BUT IT'S A FUCKING DICK MOVE
  - satvikpendem 2mo ago
    Someone would only be able to connect the dots based on what you publicly put out there. If you don't put anything out, there's nothing to connect the dots, unless you buy some sort of dark web leaked dataset. None of your analogies are comparable to online public information because you decide what to put out online, and I never said anything about legality so not sure why you bring that up.
    - esseph 2mo ago
      > unless you buy some sort of dark web leaked dataset Customers of such datasets: banks, insurance companies, HR companies, marketing firms, governments, etc.
    - iamnothere 2mo ago
      You don’t necessarily decide what to put online. Friends may upload photos of you, data brokers make your information available to “people search” websites, if you buy a house your information is available unless you put it in a blind trust, etc. If you go beyond the web to private services then you have companies like Flock and retailers who use facial recognition, who make their data available to subscribers and partners. Disturbed people with access to this data can use it to harm people, like the Ebay exec who stalked a critic or the occasional police officer who stalks a romantic interest.

fuzzfactor 2mo ago

>Why should I find you repulsive? There could be a number of reasons. Am I not trying hard enough?