In my experience, the parent's view and your view are an example of the divide between the Silicon Valley / startup mindset -- it doesn't need to last, it just

In my experience, the parent's view and your view are an example of the divide between the Silicon Valley / startup mindset -- it doesn't need to last, it just needs to get us a paycheck so we can go on to the next paycheck -- and actual software engineering where people build resilient systems meant for humans to use for a long time. There's a conflation too that to approach things with this level of thought and care requires waterfall design (it doesn't), so people shrug it off or resist because if you want to think carefully and design thoughtfully you can't also Move Fast and Break Things. Ironically, we all complain about enshittification.