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I am very jealous of you.

THX1137 2mo ago
I'm lucky that I can do something that aligns with how I like to live and work. I guess my question to you is why you don't seek to return to the office yourself? I might not understand the attraction of the commute but "different strokes for different folks" is like a bedrock of western society.
shimman 2mo ago
Unless you live in a self isolated monastery you have neighbors and the only person stopping you from making friends is yourself.
- johnnyanmac 2mo ago
  neighbors farther along in life than I. Story of my life, pretty much. I'm in an awkward gernation of being some 10 years older than a lot of other kidsa my parents were friends with. But still 15 ish years behind the parent generation with everyone having kids and families to tend to. And that's before getting into shared interests like tech or art or whatnot, which further filters out potential friends. I dunno. Maybe this is simply the issues of a suburb where I'm clearly not at the heart of some urban sprawl.
  - shimman 2mo ago
    There is always an excuse to not to do something and you seem very determined to be alone and miserable, so have at it.
    - johnnyanmac 2mo ago
      And society wonders why males never open up. Yes, perhaps I can fix this issue, once and for all.
      - shimman 2mo ago
        I'm a male and was miserable + depressed for quite a while. I decided to seek therapy and experiences I wanted to, well, experience. It has nothing to do with males "not opening up," I talk to a lot of men and no one has issues sharing their emotions because we are all healthy humans and understand that life is a struggle but with social relationships it becomes bearable. You aren't opening up at all, you're actually closing in and refusing to do anything to better yourself or seek professional therapy.
        johnnyanmac 2mo ago
        Therapy takes money, I've been short on money the last few years. It is not for the lack of trying that I do not open up to professionals. And yes, I feel it is opening up to say how I "don't belong" because I'm in this awkward age group of "too old for childhood friends". That's not something I share in my personal life. So hear it dismissed with "well you just want to be miserable, screw off" sure is motivating, right? But I guess this is America. If I don't have money to fix my problems, I'm not worth acknowledging. >we are all healthy humans and understand that life is a struggle but with social relationships it becomes bearable. I envy you. I am clearly not.

I'm lucky that I can do something that aligns with how I like to live and work. I guess my question to you is why you don't seek to return to the office yourself? I might not understand the attraction of the commute but "different strokes for different folks" is like a bedrock of western society.

shimman 2mo ago

Unless you live in a self isolated monastery you have neighbors and the only person stopping you from making friends is yourself.

johnnyanmac 2mo ago
neighbors farther along in life than I. Story of my life, pretty much. I'm in an awkward gernation of being some 10 years older than a lot of other kidsa my parents were friends with. But still 15 ish years behind the parent generation with everyone having kids and families to tend to. And that's before getting into shared interests like tech or art or whatnot, which further filters out potential friends. I dunno. Maybe this is simply the issues of a suburb where I'm clearly not at the heart of some urban sprawl.
- shimman 2mo ago
  There is always an excuse to not to do something and you seem very determined to be alone and miserable, so have at it.
  - johnnyanmac 2mo ago
    And society wonders why males never open up. Yes, perhaps I can fix this issue, once and for all.
    - shimman 2mo ago
      I'm a male and was miserable + depressed for quite a while. I decided to seek therapy and experiences I wanted to, well, experience. It has nothing to do with males "not opening up," I talk to a lot of men and no one has issues sharing their emotions because we are all healthy humans and understand that life is a struggle but with social relationships it becomes bearable. You aren't opening up at all, you're actually closing in and refusing to do anything to better yourself or seek professional therapy.
      - johnnyanmac 2mo ago
        Therapy takes money, I've been short on money the last few years. It is not for the lack of trying that I do not open up to professionals. And yes, I feel it is opening up to say how I "don't belong" because I'm in this awkward age group of "too old for childhood friends". That's not something I share in my personal life. So hear it dismissed with "well you just want to be miserable, screw off" sure is motivating, right? But I guess this is America. If I don't have money to fix my problems, I'm not worth acknowledging. >we are all healthy humans and understand that life is a struggle but with social relationships it becomes bearable. I envy you. I am clearly not.