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I learnt a long time ago that most people don't want their problems solved, they just want to vent.

• layla5alive 2mo ago
  You say that like its entirely a bad thing. "They want to vent" :- "they want to be heard" :- "they want to be understood" :- "they want to know they are understood" :- "they want to feel they matter to and are safe with the people they value"
  • tonyedgecombe 2mo ago
    It was difficult to grasp for someone with an engineering mentality. Why would you not want to fix the problem you are complaining about?
    • layla5alive 2mo ago
      Often times, they want to fix it themselves, they're just not ready to yet. And in the interim, they want to feel seen, understood, validated, safe.