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Not in salary though, given that the salaries in TFA are local to the US, and West European salaries are lower, as a rule (East European salaries, of course, ev

by Sharlin 2mo ago

Not in salary though, given that the salaries in TFA are local to the US, and West European salaries are lower, as a rule (East European salaries, of course, even lower).

pavlov 2mo ago
OTOH many women may prefer as partner the European man who doesn't work crazy overtime every night, takes 4 weeks of holidays every year with her, uses his months of legally mandated parental leave when they have a baby... The 6/6/6 dimensions seem to capture very little about what's actually important for the success of a long-term relationship. I guess that's fine, it's presumably a game for 20-year-olds.
- red-iron-pine 2mo ago
  long term success of a relationship =/= mating, breeding, or getting a sugar daddy to cover your lifestyle
epolanski 2mo ago
What an American makes in absolute terms is irrelevant unless you're planning to move to the US. And if you're planning to move to the US, then its still irrelevant, because what matters is how much you make in US compared to the cost of living of the US. Nobody would trade making 40k net in Italy for making 80k net in US, you're actually poorer (and not just financially). All measures are relative. Absolute wages have stopped being impressive as the world got richer in the last decades and standards of living improved.
- shaftway 2mo ago
  It's not completely irrelevant, especially if you're planning to move back eventually. If you're a decent software engineer, living in North Elbonia, making $20,000 / year, that's just enough to cover mortgage on a $100,000 house and live. In 30 years you've got a house and that's it. Or you could move to the Silicon Valley and make $400,000 / year and that's just enough to cover mortgage on a $2,000,000 house and live. In 30 years you've got a house and that's it. But when you sell your house, move back to North Elbonia, and buy a house there, you've got $1,900,000 banked. I'd take that deal.

by Sharlin 2mo ago

Not in salary though, given that the salaries in TFA are local to the US, and West European salaries are lower, as a rule (East European salaries, of course, even lower).

pavlov 2mo ago

OTOH many women may prefer as partner the European man who doesn't work crazy overtime every night, takes 4 weeks of holidays every year with her, uses his months of legally mandated parental leave when they have a baby... The 6/6/6 dimensions seem to capture very little about what's actually important for the success of a long-term relationship. I guess that's fine, it's presumably a game for 20-year-olds.

red-iron-pine 2mo ago
long term success of a relationship =/= mating, breeding, or getting a sugar daddy to cover your lifestyle

epolanski 2mo ago

What an American makes in absolute terms is irrelevant unless you're planning to move to the US. And if you're planning to move to the US, then its still irrelevant, because what matters is how much you make in US compared to the cost of living of the US. Nobody would trade making 40k net in Italy for making 80k net in US, you're actually poorer (and not just financially). All measures are relative. Absolute wages have stopped being impressive as the world got richer in the last decades and standards of living improved.

shaftway 2mo ago
It's not completely irrelevant, especially if you're planning to move back eventually. If you're a decent software engineer, living in North Elbonia, making $20,000 / year, that's just enough to cover mortgage on a $100,000 house and live. In 30 years you've got a house and that's it. Or you could move to the Silicon Valley and make $400,000 / year and that's just enough to cover mortgage on a $2,000,000 house and live. In 30 years you've got a house and that's it. But when you sell your house, move back to North Elbonia, and buy a house there, you've got $1,900,000 banked. I'd take that deal.