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I kind of experienced that but the relationships were more superficial than I'd have liked. If the "shared interest" is happy kids together it doesn't directly
by pstuart 2mo ago
I kind of experienced that but the relationships were more superficial than I'd have liked. If the "shared interest" is happy kids together it doesn't directly translate to the adults shared interests. But then again, maybe it was just me being me.
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- SoftTalker 2mo agoSame, the relationships were all sort of "convenience" relationships that were dependent on the kids activities to sustain. Once the kids were older, or their interests changed, and there wasn't a scheduled game or event to bring everyone together, those relationships just evaporated.
- pavel_lishin 2mo agoIt's a good jumping off point, but becoming friends requires time and work. When we're young, we have nothing but time spent together. As adults, who spend an hour at the local park with some kids, those relationships require more effort to grow. We have a few friends we've made through our kid, and it definitely takes more work to maintain - but it's been very worth it so far.
- pstuart 2mo ago> becoming friends requires time, work, and a mutual desire for friendship FTFY ;-)
- pavel_lishin 2mo agoHow dare you imply that people don't want to be my friend! I'M PLEASANT AND LIKEABLE PERSON, YOU JERK!
- Peacefulz 2mo agoAs I age, my desire for friends for friends' sake diminishes. If someone doesn't offer something to my life that I value, I'll have a hard time putting energy into them. It was so easy to make strong bonds as a kid, captive with other kids in a building most of the time. Now there is a cost:benefit I have to weigh a persons worth to me against.
- skeeter2020 2mo agooverall I had a very similar experience, but did make a few very good, long-term friends out of it that have survived our kids growin up and apart.