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There’s a fourth: deny
by andsoitis 4mo ago
There’s a fourth: deny
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- metalman 4mo agoor perhaps thats the first response? in any case, as a hard core problem solver who is currently overwhelmed with problems I am bieng forced into no choice paragmatic responses. where I have lost any reserve capacity, deflect, move, deny a problem and get some rest, eat, shave the yak, before rejoining the fray with enough energy to perform is just part of the routine now. ie: triage or go under, which may be habit forming
- jagged-chisel 4mo agoDenying the problem exists is not the same. Denying that the problem is a “problem” would be. In the first case, the affected do nothing because there is no problem. In the second, it’s “not a problem” because they did a thing and moved it elsewhere.
- metalman 4mo agothe other possibility is that the problem is somebody elses, rendering it invisible and therefor potentialy usefull in it's own right
- 1970-01-01 4mo agoThere's a 0th: empathy. They want to hear you say you heard them, hear you say the problem is a problem, and have you say the problem is making things harder.
- pessimizer 4mo agoThe cool thing about this one is that you don't even have to understand what they said, just learn how to repeat it back to them with a sad look on your face.
- hackable_sand 3mo agoFascinating demonstration of denial
- ActionHank 4mo agoMy colleagues like this one.