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> unwritten rules of social play are learned in the process of growing-up. Could you elaborate. Under which circumstances does one learn these things. Family,
by srean 3mo ago
> unwritten rules of social play are learned in the process of growing-up.
Could you elaborate. Under which circumstances does one learn these things. Family, surely not. I hope so.
- derwiki 3mo agoI learned this best in university clubs that had elected positions
- srean 3mo agoAh ! Makes sense. Those places seemed quite toxic and I kept my distance from those.
- derwiki 3mo agoOOC, if you accept the premise that they would have been a good place to practice/understand this sort of thing, and got a chance to “do over,” would you still keep your distance?
- srean 3mo agoDifficult to answer because I find some of the machinations so distressing. Perhaps it is the way I am wired. Given the benefits of the knowledge that became apparent later in life, I might have preferred looking on from a distance to understand how things work. But good question. You made me re-evaluated a choice I had made.
- pjmlp 3mo agoOh family as well, when going beyond the one household, into the remainig family branches especially if money, property are involved, or going against the house culture and expectations for one's life choices.
- wolvesechoes 3mo ago> Family, surely not. I hope so School, workplace, sports club, but yes, family as well. Children learn how to influence their parents to get what the want, which parent they should put pressure on, which parent should be first to be told about some issue etc. We don't call it politics as it is just a natural thing, but the principle is the same.