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i'd argue against that point to a degree. going against the grain does work, if you know who you're looking for and can send the right signals accordingly it'

i'd argue against that point to a degree. going against the grain does work, if you know who you're looking for and can send the right signals accordingly it's that okcupid data about how the highly tattoo'd people tended to get the most negative responses, but also very strong responses from other seriously tat'd people fly a flag, signal theory, etc.

eloisius 4mo ago
That only worked in first-gen dating sites where you browsed profiles. I think this strategy was called "spearfishing" where you make your profile as polarizing and authentic as possible, because it would cut out all the people you don't want to meet and appeal strongly to the person you do want to meet. In today's Elo-score face swiping apps, your profile just tanks because all those people you didn't appeal to left-swiped you, and the one person who would have liked your tattoos never sees you. The only strategy for these apps is to 1) be attractive 2) don't be unattractive.