"Is it possible to share a house with friends, or a spouse, or your kids, without ever "doing something you don't want to do"?" I get what you and the OP mean,

"Is it possible to share a house with friends, or a spouse, or your kids, without ever "doing something you don't want to do"?" I get what you and the OP mean, but I think there's an implicit cost that we're willing to pay in this case. Do I want to take out the trash? Not always, but I want to live with the people I live with more than I don't want to take out the trash, so I take out the trash. It's probably more complicated psychologically than that, but I'm sure OP would agree.