If I attempt synesthesia, like fantasize kissing or making out with those women, I can't help but imagine getting smudged with makeup and the mineral taste of

If I attempt synesthesia, like fantasize kissing or making out with those women, I can't help but imagine getting smudged with makeup and the mineral taste of lipstick. On the other hand in real life I might wind up accidentally really close to somebody and have their perfume herald the tang of their microbiome which one could interpret as "they should shower more" but because of the whole experience I am thinking about it weeks later. This book goes to the heard of what is wrong with that whole evpsych approach https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_l%27amour_(Stendhal) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_l%27amour_(Stendhal) which reveals a whole inner psychology which can enrich our lives but that I think a lot of people are closed off to. If I am working with someone who's attractive but a little annoying I might cultivate a crush on them because then I'm not annoyed anymore. That's lady's whole problem is that she casts such a wide net and considers so many options whereas when you fall in love with somebody that person seems absolutely singular, at least in that limerent phrase that Stendhal calls "crystallization". The more people she considers the more certain it is that they'll all fall short and she can't get it because https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/21810-it-is-difficult-to-get-a-man-to-understand-something https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/21810-it-is-difficult-to-ge... Stendhal makes polyamory seem like a delightful aristocratic game whereas those rationalists in the bay area make it seem like a stressful chore that you need a technical dictionary to talk about.