> Shame works for me > I'd forever be paranoid about it Some folks like to work that way, but I don't think most do. This obsession for outward correct behavi

> Shame works for me > I'd forever be paranoid about it Some folks like to work that way, but I don't think most do. This obsession for outward correct behavior, even if it works at the end (at least externally), doesn't sound like a recipe for happy inner life but maybe I am reading too much into that.