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> You say this as if introversion is something to be "cured." Not at all what I'm saying. You don't get cured by exercise either. You're never "done" exercisin

by knorker 4mo ago

> You say this as if introversion is something to be "cured." Not at all what I'm saying. You don't get cured by exercise either. You're never "done" exercising. It's just a thing you do, in order to have a long term better life. I don't like talking to strangers. It still tastes like medicine. I have no expectation that I'll ever like it. But I still have to take my medicine, or I'll be worse off long term. And like being sore if you've not exercised in a while, the aversion to being social is stronger after taking a "solitude vacation". But you can't not do it. So yeah, you completely misunderstood.

SoftTalker 4mo ago
I still think when you use terms like "take my medicine" it's like you're trying to cure (or treat) a disease. Why will you be worse off? For me, being social is tiring and uncomfortable, but unlike exercise I don't see a benefit.
- knorker 4mo ago
  > I still think when you use terms like "take my medicine" it's like you're trying to cure (or treat) a disease. Well, that's on you. Especially since I also added "Or getting exercise" and another clarifying paragraph after that. > For me, being social is tiring and uncomfortable Exactly my point. "But I don't wanna!". Yeah. That's why i compare it with taking your yucky tasting medicine, or exercising. > I don't see a benefit. Pearls before swine, I suppose. Shrug.
  - jader201 4mo ago
    You’re missing the parent’s point. You’re still making introversion out to be something that you should work at to compensate or fix, because not doing so would be unhealthy. E.g. you exercise because if you don’t, you risk disease, cancer, and a host of other physical issues. There’s nothing unhealthy about never striking up conversations with strangers. There are more natural and organic ways to meet and interact with people you don’t know (many have been covered in other comments). But striking up conversations with random strangers in public shouldn’t be equated with exercise.
    - knorker 4mo ago
      > You’re still making introversion out to be something that you should work at to compensate or fix Not fix. You just to hold your nose and do anyway, with no expectations if your experience of it ever changing. Compensate? Not the way I think you mean it, no. Say you hate exercising or brushing your teeth. Ok. Nothing wrong with that. That's not good or bad. But you still have to do it. Now, am I saying that only the social interaction with random strangers, that only inane smalltalk does it? Of course not.

by knorker 4mo ago

SoftTalker 4mo ago

I still think when you use terms like "take my medicine" it's like you're trying to cure (or treat) a disease. Why will you be worse off? For me, being social is tiring and uncomfortable, but unlike exercise I don't see a benefit.

knorker 4mo ago
> I still think when you use terms like "take my medicine" it's like you're trying to cure (or treat) a disease. Well, that's on you. Especially since I also added "Or getting exercise" and another clarifying paragraph after that. > For me, being social is tiring and uncomfortable Exactly my point. "But I don't wanna!". Yeah. That's why i compare it with taking your yucky tasting medicine, or exercising. > I don't see a benefit. Pearls before swine, I suppose. Shrug.
- jader201 4mo ago
  You’re missing the parent’s point. You’re still making introversion out to be something that you should work at to compensate or fix, because not doing so would be unhealthy. E.g. you exercise because if you don’t, you risk disease, cancer, and a host of other physical issues. There’s nothing unhealthy about never striking up conversations with strangers. There are more natural and organic ways to meet and interact with people you don’t know (many have been covered in other comments). But striking up conversations with random strangers in public shouldn’t be equated with exercise.
  - knorker 4mo ago
    > You’re still making introversion out to be something that you should work at to compensate or fix Not fix. You just to hold your nose and do anyway, with no expectations if your experience of it ever changing. Compensate? Not the way I think you mean it, no. Say you hate exercising or brushing your teeth. Ok. Nothing wrong with that. That's not good or bad. But you still have to do it. Now, am I saying that only the social interaction with random strangers, that only inane smalltalk does it? Of course not.