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My life is completely meaningless, I am now 30, I lost my job, nobody is hiring (only ghost jobs), I could be deported at any moment because my visa is linked t

My life is completely meaningless, I am now 30, I lost my job, nobody is hiring (only ghost jobs), I could be deported at any moment because my visa is linked to my employment, also I am 30 and I have never had a girlfriend or sex, so is it just a slow decline from here until death or what? Also everything fun is illegal, people who make cool software inconvenient to the government (like anonymous social media) seem to always be a hair's breadth away from prison time. Cool stuff is always punished and never rewarded. Edit: an example of everything worth doing being illegal, from another comment. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ReplayTV https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ReplayTV

sph 4mo ago
I don't have an easy solution to your problem, so knowing that someone might have sensible words for you, I'll be the one to suggest to do something drastic. No, not that. If you have your back against the wall, why not completely change your life? Move to another country. Spend a month in Thailand to get over your obsession with sex. Go pick avocadoes in Australia. Take heavy psychedelics. Start smoking and drinking and read some philosophy. None of these are gonna solve your problem, but moping isn't gonna solve them either. You are 30, you are young, and you'll get over whatever stupid choice you do today. Perhaps that's what you need, rather than hoping for society to unfuck itself or you to become someone you probably are not. The grave will always be waiting for you at the end anyway. EDIT: Fine, I'll also give you the serious answer which will get you out of your existential dilemma. You're might be going through a midlife crisis. You are not the first. It always hits one in their 30s. Figure out what it is, what it means, what meaning is for you, what the hell you are supposed to do with your time on Earth. You have done all society told you to do, and you're at the "now what? Is that it?" phase. Start with Carl Jung. It's gonna get worse before it's gonna get better, but if you take this seriously you'll grow into a more comfortable you by the end.
- chadgpt3 4mo ago
  I know there's a word for it and that everyone goes through it. That doesn't make it better. By any objective standards my life isn't bad. I lost my job but I'm still financially secure for a while. But it isn't good, either. Picking avocados in Australia wouldn't be any better. I'm not even going to touch on smoking and drinking to forget the pain of the meaninglessness of existence, because I know what happens to people who do. You don't want to touch psychedelics while in a bad mental state either. I am not young, that's the problem. When I was 15 I was young. When I was 20 I was young. When I was 25 one could argue I was young. 30 is not young any more. It's not old yet, that starts at about 45, but young is over. When I was 20 I did make some cool software that a lot of people across the internet liked. Then I had to work harder for university and didn't have enough free time to continue it and I've never done that again since, even when I had free time again. Possibly the worst thing is the thought that nothing matters, except maybe having children, which just kicks the can along the road and won't happen for me anyway, and shouldn't. I think it's relevant because everyone who has children finds the purpose of their life is to support their children. People who don't have a much harder time with that. It's an emotional state. Perfectly rationally, we should all just do nothing because nothing matters in the end. But somehow we grow up with the illusion that things matter, and I want that back!
  - sph 4mo ago
    I don't think you've read my comment as deeply as I hoped, so... > But somehow we grow up with the illusion that things matter, and I want that back! If you're going through hell, keep going. The way out is forward, not back. There is nothing anyone can say that is going to make your moment of disillusionment easier for you.

sph 4mo ago

I don't have an easy solution to your problem, so knowing that someone might have sensible words for you, I'll be the one to suggest to do something drastic. No, not that. If you have your back against the wall, why not completely change your life? Move to another country. Spend a month in Thailand to get over your obsession with sex. Go pick avocadoes in Australia. Take heavy psychedelics. Start smoking and drinking and read some philosophy. None of these are gonna solve your problem, but moping isn't gonna solve them either. You are 30, you are young, and you'll get over whatever stupid choice you do today. Perhaps that's what you need, rather than hoping for society to unfuck itself or you to become someone you probably are not. The grave will always be waiting for you at the end anyway. EDIT: Fine, I'll also give you the serious answer which will get you out of your existential dilemma. You're might be going through a midlife crisis. You are not the first. It always hits one in their 30s. Figure out what it is, what it means, what meaning is for you, what the hell you are supposed to do with your time on Earth. You have done all society told you to do, and you're at the "now what? Is that it?" phase. Start with Carl Jung. It's gonna get worse before it's gonna get better, but if you take this seriously you'll grow into a more comfortable you by the end.

chadgpt3 4mo ago
I know there's a word for it and that everyone goes through it. That doesn't make it better. By any objective standards my life isn't bad. I lost my job but I'm still financially secure for a while. But it isn't good, either. Picking avocados in Australia wouldn't be any better. I'm not even going to touch on smoking and drinking to forget the pain of the meaninglessness of existence, because I know what happens to people who do. You don't want to touch psychedelics while in a bad mental state either. I am not young, that's the problem. When I was 15 I was young. When I was 20 I was young. When I was 25 one could argue I was young. 30 is not young any more. It's not old yet, that starts at about 45, but young is over. When I was 20 I did make some cool software that a lot of people across the internet liked. Then I had to work harder for university and didn't have enough free time to continue it and I've never done that again since, even when I had free time again. Possibly the worst thing is the thought that nothing matters, except maybe having children, which just kicks the can along the road and won't happen for me anyway, and shouldn't. I think it's relevant because everyone who has children finds the purpose of their life is to support their children. People who don't have a much harder time with that. It's an emotional state. Perfectly rationally, we should all just do nothing because nothing matters in the end. But somehow we grow up with the illusion that things matter, and I want that back!
- sph 4mo ago
  I don't think you've read my comment as deeply as I hoped, so... > But somehow we grow up with the illusion that things matter, and I want that back! If you're going through hell, keep going. The way out is forward, not back. There is nothing anyone can say that is going to make your moment of disillusionment easier for you.