There's a difference between a simple disagreement and a judgment on a person's use of technology based on a rather mundane task. > That's even weirder though,

There's a difference between a simple disagreement and a judgment on a person's use of technology based on a rather mundane task. > That's even weirder though, because you're taking what should be a moment of connection/care and trying to automate it. "weirder" has a pretty negative connotation, hard not to see its usage as denigrating. "what should be a moment or connection" is an assumption on what the moment actually is. All OP mentioned is that they want to turn off one light in one bedroom. Your comment invented a narrative about what that must mean and then made statements on the narrative that exists only in your mind. I don't think anyone is trying to "tone-police" you I think people just disagree with your take.