Incivility is when you say something I don't like. I intended this remark to be facetious, but that is actually the definition, according to Wiktionary: > inci

Incivility is when you say something I don't like. I intended this remark to be facetious, but that is actually the definition, according to Wiktionary: > incivility sense 1: (uncountable) The state of being uncivil; lack of courtesy; rudeness in manner. > uncivil sense 1: Not civil; discourteous; impolite > civil sense 2: (comparable) Behaving in a reasonable or polite manner; avoiding displays of hostility. > reasonable sense 3: Not excessive or immoderate; within due limits; proper. > polite sense 1: Well-mannered, civilized. > well-mannered: Having good manners; polite, courteous and socially correct; conforming to standards of good behaviour. > hostility sense 1: (uncountable) The state of being hostile. > hostile sense 3: Unwilling. > discourteous: Impolite; lacking consideration for others. That's presumably why the feminists developed the concept of "tone policing".