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I’ve been interested for a decade+, but appreciate the condescension
by gf263 4mo ago
I’ve been interested for a decade+, but appreciate the condescension
- al_borland 4mo agoI’ve found the most effective tool to be uninstalling the apps, being logged out in the browser, then building up a deep resentment for the manipulative practices these apps/sites employ. Friends send me links on Instagram all the time and it’s always a multi-step process to see it in the browser without being logged in. It’s half-broken and super annoying. If a search query sends me to Instagram, it just breaks 80% of the time and locks me out. If I click on any of the bait designed to lure people into view more content, it will throw up a wall and require downloading the app or logging in. This all serves to fuel the hate I have for these platforms. If they’re going to make it that hard to use, I don’t want to use it, and there must be very powerful and financially motivated reasons why they are pushing me toward a certain engagement model. I once took screenshots of all the BS I had to go through when he sent me one of those links, so he could see how bad it was and stop spamming me with every other video in his algorithm. At the time it was a 3-4 step process of dismissing modal windows for every link he sent.
- DANmode 4mo agoYou are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time around. Do those people send you any blog links? or solely vapid social media shite? Note that. There’s overlap in other parts of life.
- gf263 4mo agoGlad you’re not one of them ;)
- al_borland 4mo agoOne person who texts me most often primarily sends vapid social media content. I disabled notifications on his texts and check them on my time, skipping most of them. I don't feel the need to cut someone out of my life who I've known for 20+ years over their instagram addiction (which seems to be what you're implying if I read between the lines). The big AI push has made him more interested in what is happening with all these tech companies and he doesn't like it. I'm trying to use it nudge him off these platforms run by companies he claims to despise.
- DANmode 4mo ago> I don't feel the need to cut someone out of my life who I've known for 20+ years over their instagram addiction Then, bluntly, good luck fixing your own problem with the same. How many decades will you nudge before realizing you’re yelling down a well? These aren’t new concepts or tricks people are falling for.
- al_borland 4mo agoI don’t have a problem with it. The only social media adjacent sites I use are YouTube and this one. Any other accounts I had in the past have either been deleted or deactivated for years now. You’re theory, that my friend using Instagram translates into an addiction for me, doesn’t hold water. I spent 6 years where the 5 people I spent the most time with all smoked, and I’ve never had a cigarette in my life. Values are stronger than peer pressure, especially as an adult. By the end of those 6 years there was only one smoker left. I’m not sure why you assume I should trend toward an unhealthy habit, instead of him trending toward a healthier habit, especially as his hate for the tech industry grows. I also don’t really care if he quits himself, I just want him to not send so many reels my way. He is already good about not being on his phone when hanging out in person. It’s not that big of a deal.
- DANmode 4mo ago> I don’t have a problem with it Then your reply is minorly off-topic, and unexpected, in the context your sibling commenter established. > You’re theory, that my friend using Instagram translates into an addiction for me Didn’t say it would cause anything for you. Just that if you had the same issue, it’ll cause you undue friction trying to fix it.
- kakacik 4mo ago> You are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time around. Interesting claim, definitely not something valid for me, for better or worse. But I can see why it could be valid in general.
- DANmode 4mo agoYou can’t fix human problems with technology. You can only accelerate the human behavior, unless you involve another person in taking your freedom away. No condescension - and if you’ve been trying for ten years, there’s clearly a misunderstanding.
- foltik 4mo ago> You can’t fix human problems with technology. Yes you can. Screen time limiters, nicotine patches, putting the cookies out of sight, all of these things empirically work better than willpower alone. > No condescension - and if you’ve been trying for ten years, there’s clearly a misunderstanding. Oh please. “Why are you depressed? Just be happy or you must not be ready for a change. No condescension btw.”
- DANmode 4mo agoInteresting comparison, because the behavior in question (doomscrolling, inability to manage compulsion, time mismanagement) is definitely linked to ADHD/depression.