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> "we don't talk about it" I wish this was true. Most of the "childfree" people I know are really obnoxious and in-your-face about it. Most of your post make

> "we don't talk about it" I wish this was true. Most of the "childfree" people I know are really obnoxious and in-your-face about it. Most of your post makes a lot of sense. Kids are expensive. Some people aren't cut out for parenting. Some people just have other priorities. And it's obnoxious to have people telling you "you should have kids" when you've chosen not to. That said, the argument that you "just won't understand until [you] have one" is entirely correct. It's like having never been sexually active. You can choose to be celibate or childfree, but you don't and can't really know what it's like on the other side of the line. (It is, unfortunately, a decision it's impossible to make in a truly "informed" manner -- you can only truly understand after making the decision.)

mnicole 14y ago
> I wish this was true. Most of the "childfree" people I know are really obnoxious and in-your-face about it. Interesting, where do you live? I have yet to find anyone else in my social circles that has made this decision, nor have I heard anyone outside of the internet take this stance in my presence, especially naggingly so.
- lotharbot 14y ago
  > "where do you live?" Denver, CO. The most obnoxious of the bunch is an old friend from church. It's like "childfree" is a religion for her. Admittedly, with such a small sample size, I can't really say whether their attitude or yours is more common. But I do hope your approach prevails.