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Why not check out now? Why after this year ? You supposedly have the means to do so now , so why not exit now? You won’t exit after this year. You’ll keep push

Why not check out now? Why after this year ? You supposedly have the means to do so now , so why not exit now? You won’t exit after this year. You’ll keep pushing it out.

siren2026 4mo ago
Everyone always need twice as much as they have to retire. Most people will also never do it. Reading the FIRE subreddit I have realized that most people like the fantasy of retiring more than actually retiring. A lot of them wouldn't actually know what to do without the daily societal pressure to grind. Life is tough when you are out of the beaten path and need to figure out how to fill your days apparently.
- throwfaraway4 4mo ago
  TBH I think most people's lives are on autopilot and I can't blame them. This is what late stage capitalism has endoctrinated into our culture. I was one of them until some events made me look critically at retirement. After crunching the numbers I could have retired years ago. Sticking it out a bit longer to squash the rest of the concerns my spouse has.
  - robocat 4mo ago
    > late stage capitalism versus > crunching the numbers I could have retired years ago How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? The stereotype is a boomer taking their winnings and then complaining about the system. I've got just enough money to start worrying that my savings will mostly be taken by my government. Perhaps it is time for me to join the old white man complainer's club (is HN that?).
    - siren2026 4mo ago
      > How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? I'm not sure this is full on hypocrisy. In this case this is the game we are forced to play (late stage capitalism). Doesn't mean I need to like the game, but since I'm forced to play I will darn make sure to win as much as I can. Hate the game, not the players
      - robocat 4mo ago
        > I will darn make sure to win as much as I can. Nicely demonstrating the root cause of late stage capitalism - us. Perhaps we should blame the players. I see so many comments trying to blame others or blame systems. Blaming billionaires, or consumers, or boomers, or zoomers. Of course I'm part of the problem too. I do fix things in my direct environment but I figure trying to help fix more would be beyond my skills.
    - overfeed 4mo ago
      > How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? Does this specific category error have a name? I see it so frequently, it's ridiculous. Being genre-savvy/aware of the meta-game doesn't mean one can opt-out, or refuse to play. Recognizing how a game is rigged often allows one to play it better than the average person. I'm not GP, but my acknowledgement that society is unequal, and that I sometimes benefit from the inequality doesn't mean I have to be dude under the bridge, nor is it immoral since I cannot opt out of humanity. All I can do is minimize my odds of falling into societal cracks, and I make no apologies for that.
      - WJW 4mo ago
        For myself I usually call it "(not) playing to win", after David Sirlin's book (see also https://www.sirlin.net/ptw https://www.sirlin.net/ptw for the free web version). In it, he describes a phenomenon in competitive videogaming where some people try to forbid valid moves in an online game because they are "broken", like throws in fighting games or rush strategies in RTS games. Sirlin argues that because they recognize a powerful tool but refuse to use it, they needlessly handicap themselves. As such, they're not playing to win but playing to feel morally superior and consequently lose to those who do use all the tools the game provides. In reasonably balanced games, it usually turns out the "overpowered" strategy is not all that overpowered and that they have huge downsides when played against people who know how to counter them. In real life, which has no requirement of being balanced, we can recognize that certain strategies ((explicitly legal and often even encouraged!) consistently work really well. Choosing not to use those strategies doesn't make one morally superior, just bad at playing the game of life. That said, "minimizing your own odds of falling into societal cracks" often still includes caring for others around you. On a small scale, being rich but alone because everyone around you went bankrupt and/or became estranged to you is not much fun. On a bigger scale it's just good governance to make sure everyone has food, safety and entertainment, just to keep the pitchforks away.
    - throwfaraway4 4mo ago
      Sweet summer child. Two things can be true at once
throwfaraway4 4mo ago
As you can imagine, it's a planning heavy decision. I came off parental leave earlier this year and prior to that my wife and I talked about me not going back. However, we decided to delay until my next vesting later this year and to see how the midterms play out with this clown car of an administration and the potential impacts on healthcare. Barring anything catastrophic, it's happening this year. Parental leave already gave me a taste of the life I'd rather have.
- throwaway-away 4mo ago
  Same boat, my son was born in October last year and have been back at work since February and I am already completely overwhelmed. Our plan is to wait for the second child and get another paternity leave and then I will fuck off from any corporate/enterprise job and try to do my own thing first and we'll live off menial jobs + the income from the couple of apartments we have on AirBnB. I am not planning to stay out of tech altogether though, at least long term.
  - throwfaraway4 4mo ago
    Happy journey friend. Enjoy those kiddos
  - leoqa 4mo ago
    This was also my plan; hang in there for the next kid, wait for the next vest, etc. ultimately daycare is expensive, healthcare is expensive… I’m still stuck 6 years later waiting to quit but something always comes up and there’s always another vest around the corner.
    - WJW 4mo ago
      Well obviously. Vesting schedules are explicitly designed the way they are to keep people around. That's their entire purpose. Retirement is inherently a choice to earn less lifetime money and pour that time into family and other things you like doing. Waiting for the next vesting cliff is inherently a choice to earn more money and spend less time on your family.

Why not check out now? Why after this year ? You supposedly have the means to do so now , so why not exit now? You won’t exit after this year. You’ll keep pushing it out.

siren2026 4mo ago

Everyone always need twice as much as they have to retire. Most people will also never do it. Reading the FIRE subreddit I have realized that most people like the fantasy of retiring more than actually retiring. A lot of them wouldn't actually know what to do without the daily societal pressure to grind. Life is tough when you are out of the beaten path and need to figure out how to fill your days apparently.

throwfaraway4 4mo ago
TBH I think most people's lives are on autopilot and I can't blame them. This is what late stage capitalism has endoctrinated into our culture. I was one of them until some events made me look critically at retirement. After crunching the numbers I could have retired years ago. Sticking it out a bit longer to squash the rest of the concerns my spouse has.
- robocat 4mo ago
  > late stage capitalism versus > crunching the numbers I could have retired years ago How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? The stereotype is a boomer taking their winnings and then complaining about the system. I've got just enough money to start worrying that my savings will mostly be taken by my government. Perhaps it is time for me to join the old white man complainer's club (is HN that?).
  - siren2026 4mo ago
    > How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? I'm not sure this is full on hypocrisy. In this case this is the game we are forced to play (late stage capitalism). Doesn't mean I need to like the game, but since I'm forced to play I will darn make sure to win as much as I can. Hate the game, not the players
    - robocat 4mo ago
      > I will darn make sure to win as much as I can. Nicely demonstrating the root cause of late stage capitalism - us. Perhaps we should blame the players. I see so many comments trying to blame others or blame systems. Blaming billionaires, or consumers, or boomers, or zoomers. Of course I'm part of the problem too. I do fix things in my direct environment but I figure trying to help fix more would be beyond my skills.
  - overfeed 4mo ago
    > How do you reconcile the apparent hypocrisy of your wealthiness? Does this specific category error have a name? I see it so frequently, it's ridiculous. Being genre-savvy/aware of the meta-game doesn't mean one can opt-out, or refuse to play. Recognizing how a game is rigged often allows one to play it better than the average person. I'm not GP, but my acknowledgement that society is unequal, and that I sometimes benefit from the inequality doesn't mean I have to be dude under the bridge, nor is it immoral since I cannot opt out of humanity. All I can do is minimize my odds of falling into societal cracks, and I make no apologies for that.
    - WJW 4mo ago
      For myself I usually call it "(not) playing to win", after David Sirlin's book (see also https://www.sirlin.net/ptw https://www.sirlin.net/ptw for the free web version). In it, he describes a phenomenon in competitive videogaming where some people try to forbid valid moves in an online game because they are "broken", like throws in fighting games or rush strategies in RTS games. Sirlin argues that because they recognize a powerful tool but refuse to use it, they needlessly handicap themselves. As such, they're not playing to win but playing to feel morally superior and consequently lose to those who do use all the tools the game provides. In reasonably balanced games, it usually turns out the "overpowered" strategy is not all that overpowered and that they have huge downsides when played against people who know how to counter them. In real life, which has no requirement of being balanced, we can recognize that certain strategies ((explicitly legal and often even encouraged!) consistently work really well. Choosing not to use those strategies doesn't make one morally superior, just bad at playing the game of life. That said, "minimizing your own odds of falling into societal cracks" often still includes caring for others around you. On a small scale, being rich but alone because everyone around you went bankrupt and/or became estranged to you is not much fun. On a bigger scale it's just good governance to make sure everyone has food, safety and entertainment, just to keep the pitchforks away.
  - throwfaraway4 4mo ago
    Sweet summer child. Two things can be true at once

throwfaraway4 4mo ago

As you can imagine, it's a planning heavy decision. I came off parental leave earlier this year and prior to that my wife and I talked about me not going back. However, we decided to delay until my next vesting later this year and to see how the midterms play out with this clown car of an administration and the potential impacts on healthcare. Barring anything catastrophic, it's happening this year. Parental leave already gave me a taste of the life I'd rather have.

throwaway-away 4mo ago
Same boat, my son was born in October last year and have been back at work since February and I am already completely overwhelmed. Our plan is to wait for the second child and get another paternity leave and then I will fuck off from any corporate/enterprise job and try to do my own thing first and we'll live off menial jobs + the income from the couple of apartments we have on AirBnB. I am not planning to stay out of tech altogether though, at least long term.
- throwfaraway4 4mo ago
  Happy journey friend. Enjoy those kiddos
- leoqa 4mo ago
  This was also my plan; hang in there for the next kid, wait for the next vest, etc. ultimately daycare is expensive, healthcare is expensive… I’m still stuck 6 years later waiting to quit but something always comes up and there’s always another vest around the corner.
  - WJW 4mo ago
    Well obviously. Vesting schedules are explicitly designed the way they are to keep people around. That's their entire purpose. Retirement is inherently a choice to earn less lifetime money and pour that time into family and other things you like doing. Waiting for the next vesting cliff is inherently a choice to earn more money and spend less time on your family.