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Mentioning anything like github or modern tools, on average, puts me in a position where I am either shocking or apparently showboating in a conversation. Every

Mentioning anything like github or modern tools, on average, puts me in a position where I am either shocking or apparently showboating in a conversation. Everything is testosterone, and my mild speech impediments make it next to impossible to converse with people without large expenditures of energy on my part. I'm honestly at wits end, as is obvious by the organization of this post. It's not schizophrenia, but over the past year, it has become markedly clear that I am the only person I actually can talk to... Maybe I'm just in the wrong crowd. Or maybe the crowd is too small?

hilko 14y ago
Or, like many people, you are less naturally good at communication, and you need to actively improve this ability.
xauronx 14y ago
How has your life changed over the past year? In reading some of your comments and replies, you seem kind of defensive. I know it's kind of natural when you're getting picked apart by your peers, especially in this environment (a generally respectful crowd). However, I would consider that some of the communication failures with your clients (whether your fault or theirs doesn't matter) might be caused by insecurity. I've known a lot of programmers in the past who were naturally insecure people and this manifested itself in conversation. Where they would say "Yes, I'll set up a cloud based solution with redundant storage and a jquery front end" (and feel a bit of satisfaction about sounding smart) I would just say "Yeah, I'll get it done and send you a login". After a year of working, everyone came to me internally with issues instead of the guy who's been here for 8 years. Anyhow, don't get down on yourself. It seems like you're in a frustrating situation in general and you tried to air out one grievance to get some relief. Unfortunately it appears to have frustrated you more. Just realize that a lot of people here are trying to help. Also, no one here can fix your client so naturally they're going to concentrate on the only thing they can help fix: you. You might have to go out of your way to accommodate your client, but that's why you get paid right? If it isn't worth the money then stop taking jobs with non-technical clients.

hilko 14y ago

Or, like many people, you are less naturally good at communication, and you need to actively improve this ability.

xauronx 14y ago

How has your life changed over the past year? In reading some of your comments and replies, you seem kind of defensive. I know it's kind of natural when you're getting picked apart by your peers, especially in this environment (a generally respectful crowd). However, I would consider that some of the communication failures with your clients (whether your fault or theirs doesn't matter) might be caused by insecurity. I've known a lot of programmers in the past who were naturally insecure people and this manifested itself in conversation. Where they would say "Yes, I'll set up a cloud based solution with redundant storage and a jquery front end" (and feel a bit of satisfaction about sounding smart) I would just say "Yeah, I'll get it done and send you a login". After a year of working, everyone came to me internally with issues instead of the guy who's been here for 8 years. Anyhow, don't get down on yourself. It seems like you're in a frustrating situation in general and you tried to air out one grievance to get some relief. Unfortunately it appears to have frustrated you more. Just realize that a lot of people here are trying to help. Also, no one here can fix your client so naturally they're going to concentrate on the only thing they can help fix: you. You might have to go out of your way to accommodate your client, but that's why you get paid right? If it isn't worth the money then stop taking jobs with non-technical clients.