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As someone who's also been in a long-term, committed relationship (12 years) and is not married it is weird to me that people seem to view marriage as the inevi
by ryanmolden 14y ago
As someone who's also been in a long-term, committed relationship (12 years) and is not married it is weird to me that people seem to view marriage as the inevitable outcome of coupling. I have similar views as the OP explains below and would add, to me, marriage seems like a great institution when women had no other choice (i.e. no access to education/self-sufficiency). In the modern world, aside from the religious angle, it seems somewhat anachronistic. That said if people are attracted to it they should totally do it, but gazing on people that have made a different choice and asking them to explain themselves, as if marriage were some natural state of affairs, is odd, to me.
- entropy_ 14y agoI live in a country where living together while not married is very much frowned upon. Those aren't my views, but they are the ones of the society which surrounds me. Therefore I'm just curious about lifestyles which aren't even possible here because I haven't met any people who lead them. I am not asking anyone to explain themselves, I tried to make that clear and certainly did not mean to offend anyone(sorry if I have). I was just asking out of curiosity, the way you would inquire about anything which is out of the ordinary with respect to your every day experiences(and in the society I grew up in, this is very much out of the ordinary -- That doesn't mean I'm making any kind of value judgement, it's just a fact).
- adrianhoward 14y agoNo offence taken by me - just in case you were worried ;)