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Do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4. There is no profession better matching what women in western countries expect from a co-parent than tec

Do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4. There is no profession better matching what women in western countries expect from a co-parent than tech. The money first and foremost, but the flexibility to work (more accurately, pretend to work) remotely, too. Let me reiterate: For your marriage, do not do this until your youngest child is at least 4.

tayo42 5mo ago
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- sergers 5mo ago
  Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. If u lost your job already, u didn't choosingly give up a stable(don't know u, so guessing) job as the other person alludes (don't know their situation so people guessing here). So if u had a stable good paying job, giving it up to start something new while having a new kid can be very hard .. but doable. Still I'll advised. If u lost your job, based on job market, career switch makes total sense as you need to help provide and a career switch may provide a better or stable opp. Many people have successful home life/family life with no financial stability or even a job altogether...
  - mrmarket 5mo ago
    important context for me is that layoffs keep eating my company every 6 months or so, meanwhile the due date is fast approaching. treading shark-infested waters
  - pasquinelli 5mo ago
    > Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. that's true, and also why it's prudent to not go around giving unsolicited family advice to strangers. also it's why, when you're talking about one particular woman you've never met, you should keep the demographic insights you think you have about her to yourself.
  - tayo42 5mo ago
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    - neutronicus 5mo ago
      > continue with the idea that women just want to be taken care of by a man I don't think I took this position!
shigawire 5mo ago
As someone who changed careers as my youngest was born - hard agree.
mrmarket 5mo ago
This would be ideal, but practically speaking, it will only become harder to switch careers and make up the income gap as I get older (i'm 30) and more people leave tech for less volatile industries. Plus, I don't think we'll be one and done re: kids. I don't think waiting is necessarily a smart long-term move given rising anti-tech sentiment among workers, even if it would be better to wait until the perfect age from a lifestyle perspective. This is just my opinion.
- neutronicus 5mo ago
  I guess it depends on how the pay actually compares. If the tech salary is more than the trade salary, every year you hold on is more runway for the eventual transition. Even if it takes you longer to get into the new thing because you were slow jumping ship, the extra runway might cover the difference. Obviously I've had similar thoughts to the ones you're having. But this is a pretty cushy gig and I don't think leaving it before they make me is the right decision.

tayo42 5mo ago

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sergers 5mo ago
Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. If u lost your job already, u didn't choosingly give up a stable(don't know u, so guessing) job as the other person alludes (don't know their situation so people guessing here). So if u had a stable good paying job, giving it up to start something new while having a new kid can be very hard .. but doable. Still I'll advised. If u lost your job, based on job market, career switch makes total sense as you need to help provide and a career switch may provide a better or stable opp. Many people have successful home life/family life with no financial stability or even a job altogether...
- mrmarket 5mo ago
  important context for me is that layoffs keep eating my company every 6 months or so, meanwhile the due date is fast approaching. treading shark-infested waters
- pasquinelli 5mo ago
  > Everyone has different situations and different level of risk. that's true, and also why it's prudent to not go around giving unsolicited family advice to strangers. also it's why, when you're talking about one particular woman you've never met, you should keep the demographic insights you think you have about her to yourself.
- tayo42 5mo ago
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  - neutronicus 5mo ago
    > continue with the idea that women just want to be taken care of by a man I don't think I took this position!

shigawire 5mo ago

As someone who changed careers as my youngest was born - hard agree.

mrmarket 5mo ago

This would be ideal, but practically speaking, it will only become harder to switch careers and make up the income gap as I get older (i'm 30) and more people leave tech for less volatile industries. Plus, I don't think we'll be one and done re: kids. I don't think waiting is necessarily a smart long-term move given rising anti-tech sentiment among workers, even if it would be better to wait until the perfect age from a lifestyle perspective. This is just my opinion.

neutronicus 5mo ago
I guess it depends on how the pay actually compares. If the tech salary is more than the trade salary, every year you hold on is more runway for the eventual transition. Even if it takes you longer to get into the new thing because you were slow jumping ship, the extra runway might cover the difference. Obviously I've had similar thoughts to the ones you're having. But this is a pretty cushy gig and I don't think leaving it before they make me is the right decision.