That seems fairly typical: parents who are convinced they did everything right, and never realize they are emotional train wrecks. So they can blame it all on t

That seems fairly typical: parents who are convinced they did everything right, and never realize they are emotional train wrecks. So they can blame it all on the children. Whatever - it is a complex issue, having children is not like buying a new TV. You can not predict all the issues that will arise and the emotions they will evoke. So I guess it would be wrong to propose a simple formula for child rearing, as it wouldn't apply universally to all kids. But as I said, if you have specific expectations as to what your kids turn out to be, it is probably a recipe for disaster...