Your comment presents just one way of thinking: Who want's to miss 10-15 years of her life anyway ? All the personal projects, travels, parties" Life as an in

Your comment presents just one way of thinking: Who want's to miss 10-15 years of her life anyway ? All the personal projects, travels, parties" Life as an individual is just one way to live your life. There are a multitude of others - as a family (with children), as a partner, as a mentor, a dropout, a radical - having children will close some doors, but open many others. It isn't correct to assume there is one correct path. So it must be a project that you should be able to justify, a rational decision. Show me your decision grid, advantages/drawbacks It is probably sacrilegious to say so on HN, but not every decision in life can or should be calibrated on the basis of pure logic with a positive and negative column. It is (of course) eminently sensible to think about what kind of life you could provide for a child, but there is also a sense in which having a child is an adventure into the unknown - In the same way you wouldn't review crime statistics for every country in the world and decide to only travel to the safest spots. What is the point at the individual level ? Companionship, fun, adventure, challenge and delight all spring to mind. Pushing another human in an already overcrowded planet I thought you said that we don't act at the species level ?