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Don't stress out over it. I'm Patrick, John's brother. I too constantly feel that I should be more successful, and I'm pretty sure the feeling doesn't go away

by pc 14y ago

Don't stress out over it. I'm Patrick, John's brother. I too constantly feel that I should be more successful, and I'm pretty sure the feeling doesn't go away -- no matter what's achieved. I think looking at others can be a useful gut check: am I working as hard as I could? Am I as focused as I'd like to be? But given that there's so much randomness and circumstance there too, it's a bad benchmark for anything. (For what it's worth, the check I use personally is: "is there a difference between how those who know me best would describe me, and how I'd like to be?" Most of the time, I just try to fix those gaps.) Good luck!

clicks 14y ago
So, if you don't mind me asking, do speak about your (and your brother's) upbringing. What was your childhood like? Did you parents teach you programming? Did you play with legos a lot? Write as if you were giving advice to future-fathers.
- davidkatz 14y ago
  Please, let's all stop this cult of parenting, and cult of personality. Let's assume that Patrick and John had played with legos, and that their parents taught them programming. What would that teach us? That we should teach our kids Programming and let them play with legos? Certainly not. Much respect to John and Patrick, I hope that they continue to do impressive things and that a few years down the road they'll look at the things they did in their 20s as 'merely setting the stage' for whatever else they'll be doing then.
  - jacquesm 14y ago
    Yep. Cargo-cult parenting, that's got to be a new one. I'm quite surprised at how people will latch on to the parenting as something to imitate. I'm sure it can be a factor but you can't assume that you will get identical results by cloning the procedure. Nothing good can come of that.
nmridul 14y ago
>> (For what it's worth, the check I use personally is: "is there a difference between how those who know me best would describe me, and how I'd like to be?" Most of the time, I just try to fix those gaps.) ^^^ If only I could up vote this many more times..
flog 14y ago
Interesting to have you commenting. Thanks for chipping in. As a quick check: How important has luck been to you guys?

by pc 14y ago

clicks 14y ago

So, if you don't mind me asking, do speak about your (and your brother's) upbringing. What was your childhood like? Did you parents teach you programming? Did you play with legos a lot? Write as if you were giving advice to future-fathers.

davidkatz 14y ago
Please, let's all stop this cult of parenting, and cult of personality. Let's assume that Patrick and John had played with legos, and that their parents taught them programming. What would that teach us? That we should teach our kids Programming and let them play with legos? Certainly not. Much respect to John and Patrick, I hope that they continue to do impressive things and that a few years down the road they'll look at the things they did in their 20s as 'merely setting the stage' for whatever else they'll be doing then.
- jacquesm 14y ago
  Yep. Cargo-cult parenting, that's got to be a new one. I'm quite surprised at how people will latch on to the parenting as something to imitate. I'm sure it can be a factor but you can't assume that you will get identical results by cloning the procedure. Nothing good can come of that.

nmridul 14y ago

>> (For what it's worth, the check I use personally is: "is there a difference between how those who know me best would describe me, and how I'd like to be?" Most of the time, I just try to fix those gaps.) ^^^ If only I could up vote this many more times..

flog 14y ago

Interesting to have you commenting. Thanks for chipping in. As a quick check: How important has luck been to you guys?