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Yes, it's exactly these (not necessarily wrong, but exaggerated) preconceptions about big cities that drive people to not let their kids outside. Thanks for pro

by rob74 5mo ago

Yes, it's exactly these (not necessarily wrong, but exaggerated) preconceptions about big cities that drive people to not let their kids outside. Thanks for providing a sample that supports the article's point!

Amezarak 5mo ago
It's hard to understate how shocking it is for someone who grew up in a more rural area it is to be yelled at by a crazy homeless person. I think urban people are just so desensitized to it its hard to understand how big a deal it is to people who have never experienced that. There's lots of other major culture shock moments too, like finding out public bathrooms in parks are NOT for kids or the general lack of unlocked freely available clean bathrooms in businesses.
- embedding-shape 5mo ago
  > It's hard to understate how shocking it is for someone who grew up in a more rural area it is to be yelled at by a crazy homeless person Is it? I never struggled with this, been yelled at countless of times by crazy people on the street, both growing up in a very rural area and now living most of my adult life in a metropolitan area. I don't think it's much of a shock to most, we know there are mentally unwell people out there already. > There's lots of other major culture shock moments too, like finding out public bathrooms in parks are NOT for kids What? What kind of city would limit the age of who can use the bathroom? Sounds bananas.
  - jhide 5mo ago
    > What? What kind of city would limit the age of who can use the bathroom? Sounds bananas. I think this was another comment about homelessness, not an implication about the law.
    - embedding-shape 5mo ago
      Hmm, in what way? How is homelessness related to public bathroom besides the fact that homeless people use public bathrooms? Not sure how that's related to the age of the person using the bathroom, but surely I'm missing something here.
      - nostats 5mo ago
        They are saying that homeless people are scary or messy. Or that drug use happens sometimes in a bathroom, etc. Obviously, this attitude is born from some incorrect assumptions, but it's a pretty standard feast from folks out of town.
        embedding-shape 5mo ago
        So homeless people use bathrooms to do drugs and somehow that means there is a age limit? I'm sorry but this makes no sense, how are they at all related? Why would it matter what someone does before you use the bathroom, it's not like drugs stick around in the air and impact people entering the room afterwards...
        Amezarak 5mo ago
        The last time I was in a major city with my kids I went to a major, nice park. They had to use the bathroom. There were ample bathrooms but every single one of them was filled with human feces, covering practically every surface, and littered with needles. There is absolutely no reason to tolerate this in a civilized society, and it’s completely unheard of in the region I’m from, a major culture shock - along with the attitude that I should just get over it.
        embedding-shape 5mo ago
        > There were ample bathrooms but every single one of them was filled with human feces, covering practically every surface, and littered with needles. What the hell? No offense, but was this in a slum somewhere or something? Not saying it doesn't happen in other places, but I think I've came across that once in my ~35 years, visiting countless of public bathrooms, cities and towns, admittedly mostly around in Europe, South America and Asia, but still... I don't think that's a "city" thing, that might be very local to the specific city you visited, or the specific area.
- nostats 5mo ago
  It's also shocking to have someone roll coal or call you a gendered or racist or homophobic slur in the country because you look a little different. Or seeing the expansive yards filled with decaying cars, appliances, and other metal scrap. Both urban and rural life have people suffering from poverty, mental health issues, and drug addiction. It just looks different.

by rob74 5mo ago

Amezarak 5mo ago

It's hard to understate how shocking it is for someone who grew up in a more rural area it is to be yelled at by a crazy homeless person. I think urban people are just so desensitized to it its hard to understand how big a deal it is to people who have never experienced that. There's lots of other major culture shock moments too, like finding out public bathrooms in parks are NOT for kids or the general lack of unlocked freely available clean bathrooms in businesses.

embedding-shape 5mo ago
> It's hard to understate how shocking it is for someone who grew up in a more rural area it is to be yelled at by a crazy homeless person Is it? I never struggled with this, been yelled at countless of times by crazy people on the street, both growing up in a very rural area and now living most of my adult life in a metropolitan area. I don't think it's much of a shock to most, we know there are mentally unwell people out there already. > There's lots of other major culture shock moments too, like finding out public bathrooms in parks are NOT for kids What? What kind of city would limit the age of who can use the bathroom? Sounds bananas.
- jhide 5mo ago
  > What? What kind of city would limit the age of who can use the bathroom? Sounds bananas. I think this was another comment about homelessness, not an implication about the law.
  - embedding-shape 5mo ago
    Hmm, in what way? How is homelessness related to public bathroom besides the fact that homeless people use public bathrooms? Not sure how that's related to the age of the person using the bathroom, but surely I'm missing something here.
    - nostats 5mo ago
      They are saying that homeless people are scary or messy. Or that drug use happens sometimes in a bathroom, etc. Obviously, this attitude is born from some incorrect assumptions, but it's a pretty standard feast from folks out of town.
      - embedding-shape 5mo ago
        So homeless people use bathrooms to do drugs and somehow that means there is a age limit? I'm sorry but this makes no sense, how are they at all related? Why would it matter what someone does before you use the bathroom, it's not like drugs stick around in the air and impact people entering the room afterwards...
        Amezarak 5mo ago
        The last time I was in a major city with my kids I went to a major, nice park. They had to use the bathroom. There were ample bathrooms but every single one of them was filled with human feces, covering practically every surface, and littered with needles. There is absolutely no reason to tolerate this in a civilized society, and it’s completely unheard of in the region I’m from, a major culture shock - along with the attitude that I should just get over it.
        embedding-shape 5mo ago
        > There were ample bathrooms but every single one of them was filled with human feces, covering practically every surface, and littered with needles. What the hell? No offense, but was this in a slum somewhere or something? Not saying it doesn't happen in other places, but I think I've came across that once in my ~35 years, visiting countless of public bathrooms, cities and towns, admittedly mostly around in Europe, South America and Asia, but still... I don't think that's a "city" thing, that might be very local to the specific city you visited, or the specific area.
nostats 5mo ago
It's also shocking to have someone roll coal or call you a gendered or racist or homophobic slur in the country because you look a little different. Or seeing the expansive yards filled with decaying cars, appliances, and other metal scrap. Both urban and rural life have people suffering from poverty, mental health issues, and drug addiction. It just looks different.