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What does your social life look like? Because the reality for me is that in any major city, a significant number of places - even if they technically have webs

What does your social life look like? Because the reality for me is that in any major city, a significant number of places - even if they technically have websites - post all of their events and happenings on Instagram/FB. Sure, I can talk to my close friends on any number of IM platforms, but if I want to get out and have new experiences, join club meetups, be notified of events at venues I care about, etc. - it's Meta or miss out.

pimeys 5mo ago
Go to clubs and check the events from ra.co. Go to concerts and art galleries they all have web pages. Berlin, Germany
- siren2026 5mo ago
  Or dice in NYC. Most venues and places are slowly going away from closed gardens.
  - tokioyoyo 5mo ago
    > Most venues and places are slowly going away from closed gardens. They are? Honestly, first time hearing about this. I've noticed only big events get posted outside of the IG/etc. Even in Tokyo, a simple thing like checking if a place is open on a public holiday is to check their Instagram.
    - ryan_lane 5mo ago
      Sadly in Tokyo, most businesses post their info to twitter or instagram, but in both cases you're able to read without an account (not well, but it's possible).
      - amake 5mo ago
        Instagram makes it extremely frustrating without an account. Many times I have checked a small business's opening times on Google Maps only to arrive and find them closed... the only place they reliably post their times is on Instagram. I gave up and got Instagram.
        tardedmeme 5mo ago
        I guess we need a Nitter for Instagram?
        siren2026 5mo ago
        Only way to go is to leave a 1 star review letting them know they need to publish things outside Instagram
        tokioyoyo 5mo ago
        That is insanely awful take. Why would anyone review something negatively without actually checking it out?
        autoexec 5mo ago
        He did check it out, and it was closed, because they don't post their hours outside of a user-hostile social networking site people shouldn't use and they left their hours misrepresented elsewhere. Poor customer experiences result in poor reviews. At least he did them the courtesy of telling them exactly what the problem was.
      - spacechild1 5mo ago
        I had a similar experience in Osaka. Prettry frustrating. Actually, I didn't know that you can read the posts without an account! That's good to know!
    - alex1138 5mo ago
      It's funny because this should be a non-issue Consider the grammar Hey Alice, did you see the event for Chris's band? No It was on Facebook, publically posted (audience set to public) I'm not on Facebook Like... you post something public on FB/IG and people STILL CAN'T SEE IT because apparently 'public' means 'must make an account'. It's insanity
      - tokioyoyo 5mo ago
        Well, the thing is, and people won’t like hearing it… almost everyone has a social media account outside of very small niche groups. Socially speaking, not having an account at all in any SNS (not saying an active poster, by the way!) would be negatively viewed. People don’t care about privacy, data and etc. as much as we would want them to.
  - oulu2006 5mo ago
    or https://sydneygigguide.net/dl/893a15 https://sydneygigguide.net/dl/893a15 in Sydney.
siren2026 5mo ago
Yeah the instagram posting is such a complete BS. I have a bogus instagram account where I don't follow anyone for the couple times a year I need to find set times for an artist or that kind of stuff. We need to shame artists/events/clubs that only post on Instagram
- fragmede 5mo ago
  https://19hz.info/ https://19hz.info/
  - Arainach 5mo ago
    Sure, for one category of music in some cities there's a resource. There are often community-curated lists that have some things, but if you want specific things or if you want everything/most things, it's the big platforms. I'm part of some local photography groups. There's a Discord where members plan informal get togethers, but the big events are all posted on Instagram. I follow a number of local bartenders, and their popup events are all on Instagram. Same for local performing artists. My bike club coordinates through a Facebook page. Honestly, none of my non-tech interests are viable (in a group setting) without Meta properties.
    - loloquwowndueo 5mo ago
      Get different interests then? It’s like saying “none of my group interests are viable unless I smoke”.
      - Arainach 5mo ago
        I find a life surrounded only by people who already do the things I do unfulfilling. I also find that almost no one who works outside of tech cares enough about privacy or other issues to care to move off the big platforms. I already spend my entire work day surrounded by tech workers, I'm not going to change my hobbies to spend more time around them.
      - _t2kx 5mo ago
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cwnyth 5mo ago
Maybe I'm just too old for the kinds of activities you're looking to get into, but I haven't had a Facebook since 2014, and had an IG account for just a month or two during the pandemic, and I've had zero qualms finding out information about what I wanted to do or see. It's definitely not the size of the city that matters, as I was in NYC and only recently relocated to a smaller (but still major) city.
- cwnyth 5mo ago
  *issues, not qualms. Mea culpa on the wrong word.
coffeefirst 5mo ago
The first thing I did when I quit social media was sign up for the newsletter of every concert venue in town. I never overlooked a show. I can’t speak to your interests or city, but as a rule, the greatest trick the social apps ever pulled was convincing the world that they are the only way to receive information.
Cider9986 5mo ago
If all you need is to view the restaurant/event, imginn.com or kittygr.am works well enough for me. I also like libredirect because it blocks the network connections and is convenient, shame that it's a browser extension it could really be built into the browser or something.

pimeys 5mo ago

Go to clubs and check the events from ra.co. Go to concerts and art galleries they all have web pages. Berlin, Germany

siren2026 5mo ago
Or dice in NYC. Most venues and places are slowly going away from closed gardens.
- tokioyoyo 5mo ago
  > Most venues and places are slowly going away from closed gardens. They are? Honestly, first time hearing about this. I've noticed only big events get posted outside of the IG/etc. Even in Tokyo, a simple thing like checking if a place is open on a public holiday is to check their Instagram.
  - ryan_lane 5mo ago
    Sadly in Tokyo, most businesses post their info to twitter or instagram, but in both cases you're able to read without an account (not well, but it's possible).
    - amake 5mo ago
      Instagram makes it extremely frustrating without an account. Many times I have checked a small business's opening times on Google Maps only to arrive and find them closed... the only place they reliably post their times is on Instagram. I gave up and got Instagram.
      - tardedmeme 5mo ago
        I guess we need a Nitter for Instagram?
      - siren2026 5mo ago
        Only way to go is to leave a 1 star review letting them know they need to publish things outside Instagram
        tokioyoyo 5mo ago
        That is insanely awful take. Why would anyone review something negatively without actually checking it out?
        autoexec 5mo ago
        He did check it out, and it was closed, because they don't post their hours outside of a user-hostile social networking site people shouldn't use and they left their hours misrepresented elsewhere. Poor customer experiences result in poor reviews. At least he did them the courtesy of telling them exactly what the problem was.
    - spacechild1 5mo ago
      I had a similar experience in Osaka. Prettry frustrating. Actually, I didn't know that you can read the posts without an account! That's good to know!
  - alex1138 5mo ago
    It's funny because this should be a non-issue Consider the grammar Hey Alice, did you see the event for Chris's band? No It was on Facebook, publically posted (audience set to public) I'm not on Facebook Like... you post something public on FB/IG and people STILL CAN'T SEE IT because apparently 'public' means 'must make an account'. It's insanity
    - tokioyoyo 5mo ago
      Well, the thing is, and people won’t like hearing it… almost everyone has a social media account outside of very small niche groups. Socially speaking, not having an account at all in any SNS (not saying an active poster, by the way!) would be negatively viewed. People don’t care about privacy, data and etc. as much as we would want them to.
- oulu2006 5mo ago
  or https://sydneygigguide.net/dl/893a15 https://sydneygigguide.net/dl/893a15 in Sydney.

siren2026 5mo ago

Yeah the instagram posting is such a complete BS. I have a bogus instagram account where I don't follow anyone for the couple times a year I need to find set times for an artist or that kind of stuff. We need to shame artists/events/clubs that only post on Instagram

fragmede 5mo ago
https://19hz.info/ https://19hz.info/
- Arainach 5mo ago
  Sure, for one category of music in some cities there's a resource. There are often community-curated lists that have some things, but if you want specific things or if you want everything/most things, it's the big platforms. I'm part of some local photography groups. There's a Discord where members plan informal get togethers, but the big events are all posted on Instagram. I follow a number of local bartenders, and their popup events are all on Instagram. Same for local performing artists. My bike club coordinates through a Facebook page. Honestly, none of my non-tech interests are viable (in a group setting) without Meta properties.
  - loloquwowndueo 5mo ago
    Get different interests then? It’s like saying “none of my group interests are viable unless I smoke”.
    - Arainach 5mo ago
      I find a life surrounded only by people who already do the things I do unfulfilling. I also find that almost no one who works outside of tech cares enough about privacy or other issues to care to move off the big platforms. I already spend my entire work day surrounded by tech workers, I'm not going to change my hobbies to spend more time around them.
    - _t2kx 5mo ago

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cwnyth 5mo ago

Maybe I'm just too old for the kinds of activities you're looking to get into, but I haven't had a Facebook since 2014, and had an IG account for just a month or two during the pandemic, and I've had zero qualms finding out information about what I wanted to do or see. It's definitely not the size of the city that matters, as I was in NYC and only recently relocated to a smaller (but still major) city.

cwnyth 5mo ago
*issues, not qualms. Mea culpa on the wrong word.

coffeefirst 5mo ago

The first thing I did when I quit social media was sign up for the newsletter of every concert venue in town. I never overlooked a show. I can’t speak to your interests or city, but as a rule, the greatest trick the social apps ever pulled was convincing the world that they are the only way to receive information.

Cider9986 5mo ago

If all you need is to view the restaurant/event, imginn.com or kittygr.am works well enough for me. I also like libredirect because it blocks the network connections and is convenient, shame that it's a browser extension it could really be built into the browser or something.