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Remind YC: It's Valentine's Day. Don't forget the flowers and card for your s.o.
I'm just saying, some of us can be a little forgetful of such things...
- cperciva 18y agoSignificant other? Is that one of the things that come along with taking VC funding? There's a reason people say that the most important thing for a bootstrapper to have is a good divorce lawyer. :-)
- fallentimes 18y agoHe must mean co-founder.
- chris_l 18y agoInsensitive clod! ;)
- markbao 18y agoI was hoping that Hacker News would be the place that I wouldn't have to hear about v-day. You cruel, cruel man...
- Scriptor 18y agoI'm with you on this one. Tonight, while couples are happily enjoying each other's company, I will be eating dinner at a dining hall in my college.
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- theoneill 18y agoThere's some corresponding girl who's going to be eating alone too. Why not ask her to go have coffee with you afterward? Unless the college is Caltech, in which case never mind.
- asnyder 18y agoOr most any other math/science/engineering oriented school.
- Scriptor 18y agoWell, I'm going to NYU, so theoretically my being a heterosexual male already gives me an advantage.
- HeyLaughingBoy 18y agoThis was the key to ending my loneliness years ago. Once I realized that there were great women who were just as alone as I was, I suddenly had motivation to go out and look for them.
- tdavis 18y agoI was thinking more irrelevant than cruel.
- HeyLaughingBoy 18y agoI find it very satisfying that although my wife and I are getting divorced, I can still kiss her good morning, wish her happy Valentine's day and tonight I'll probably tell her to have a good time on her date as I hug her goodbye! Nothing about our relationship has ever really been conventional :-) Flowers? Card? Good sentiment, but I'd try something from the heart: paintball, horseback ride, hot air balloon trip, have the in-laws watch the kids while you two disappear to the sleazy motel around the corner for a few hours, or just bake him/her a huge chocolate cake and eat it naked in front of the fireplace with a nice Zinfandel.
- kirse 18y agoThat first sentence was so depressing. Are you really being serious?
- gamache 18y agoAs far as divorces go, that's just about the sweet spot.
- HeyLaughingBoy 18y agoI am absolutely serious! Why do you find it depressing? I think it's a celebration of who we are that we're able to give each other what that person really wants. Valentine's Day should be about love for those around you and she and I love each other. We just shouldn't be married and we're lucky to have figured that out before we began to hate each other.
- pgebhard 18y agoIdeally, that "figuring out" would have happened before the marriage part, no?
- HeyLaughingBoy 18y agoThe real world is far from an ideal situation!
- truebosko 18y agoSitting on the dining room table waiting for her return from work, then we're off to dinner + dancing :)
- maxniederhofer 18y agoYou're sitting on the table? Not sure she'll like that.
- ljlolel 18y agoIf you don't have a significant other today: www.goodcrush.com </shameless plug>
- jrockway 18y agoThat doesn't really solve the problem of not knowing anyone to date.
- maxniederhofer 18y agomy god, that is like somebodylikesyou from back in the day. spam-o-rama?
- jrockway 18y ago> It's Valentine's Day. Don't forget the flowers and card for your s.o. Are you only supposed to care about your S.O. one day a year? Shouldn't you be nice every day?
- robak 18y agoThis had to be written by a woman! ;-) just kidding Seriously, it was probably someone who spends too much time with his/her s.o. :-)) kidding again ahh, probably wasn't funny
- eggnet 18y agoI suggest not buying flowers and a card daily.
- pgebhard 18y agoDo you have an S.O.? While you may have one who is anti-V-day (which is fine), but I'd imagine that even the one who "doesn't really care much" would probably be a little disappointed if you made NO effort to do something just a little special. Of course, you should be nice every day, too. I think that's pretty understood.
- unalone 18y agoHey, if we're on the topic of a Valentine's Day thread, I figure I'll ask a question that's never been worth an Ask HN: how do you start-up people deal with relationships when you spend a lot of your time intensely focused on the work you're doing or want to do?
- jacoblyles 18y agoKeep in mind that I'm not in a startup yet, but I have worked in several intense jobs and professions in the past. It is my opinion that you should never regularly put in more than 10 hours a day except for the occasional short crunch period. It is also my opinion that one day per week should have no more than 4 hours of work in it. That should give you a few hours for dinner and a movie on a fairly regular basis. I just don't think it's valuable to put in more time than that in the long run. Does anybody disagree?
- unalone 18y agoI'm not in a startup either, but my thought has always been, you put as much effort in as interests you. The goal is to get an idea good enough to make you want to obsess over it. I guess my problem is that I keep hoping I'll meet a girl who feels the same way. Every girlfriend I've had has been less intense (I think that's the word I want?), and as a result when I get into these moods where I want to write for 8 hours straight, or code like mad, or whatever, she doesn't understand. And then, in turn, they never have these moments that I do, where you pour yourself into something and suddenly have something magical and your own. I hope there're girls like that: I've met a few guys like that, but never girls. A guy can dream, I guess.
- kirse 18y agoFor good friends, you've got to put the effort in and block out the time, otherwise you'll always make excuses and say "I'm busy". With women, (I'm 22) I don't really care at this point. If a confident girl comes along that fully understands the sacrifices and lower attention she'll get to make a business successful, then great. The demands of a startup have to be somewhat similar to a baby. It needs you just about 24/7, can't do anything on its own, and needs the full support and unselfish attention of both parents. If a girl is going to be constantly upset because the "baby" is getting more attention than her, she'll figure out really fast that she's got two choices - leave or help out. Obviously that's tough when you're trying to get to know someone, so for now I enjoy the lack of obligations to make a good relationship happen.
- ensignavenger 18y agoSingles Awareness Day? Bah, Humbug!
- unalone 18y agoDo I smell a Hacker News-based dating site around the corner?* *I really, really hope not.
- Zoasterboy 18y agoFORGET cards and flowers, I'm BUILDING a gift. Right now.
- utx00 18y agoso you do hallmark holidays?