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I've gotten into my 40s and honestly I've dropped about 25% of my friends - as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are re

I've gotten into my 40s and honestly I've dropped about 25% of my friends - as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other. Maybe I'm an old bore, but none of that appeals. I haven't burnt my bridges but I much prefer to spend time with people that are healthy, into reading, are positive. I just can't be bothered... Still I may change my mind in time - but I am aiming for a long stint of not seeing the boys. I am married now and with my first kid (10 weeks old) and that has definitely made me time poor. But I only now text the friends that actually matter to me now.

loeg 5mo ago
I find it's pretty easy to make new friends with other people doing healthy activities (I'm not in my 40s but many of the people I meet doing sports are).
coldtea 5mo ago
>as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other. Can I get your friends?
- whatever120 5mo ago
  His “friends” sound awful. Why would you want them?
  - karmakurtisaani 5mo ago
    He might also be awful, no shame in that (a little shame in that tho).
  - ElevenLathe 5mo ago
    Better awful friends that no friends at all IMO.
    - breakpointalpha 5mo ago
      No, it's infinitely worse for your life to be surrounded by bad decision makers.
      - ElevenLathe 5mo ago
        It's a preference. I have been in both situations, and prefer to "love the ones I'm with".
  - red-iron-pine 5mo ago
    don't yuck his yum
  - exolymph 5mo ago
    Partying is fun!
  - arolihas 5mo ago
    they sound like a fun time