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Median tenure at a lot of tech companies is around 18 months. If you meet quarterly with your manager, the median employee is only going to meet with their mana
by reverius42 6mo ago
Median tenure at a lot of tech companies is around 18 months. If you meet quarterly with your manager, the median employee is only going to meet with their manager 6 times, total! Not to mention people change jobs, and org charts change, so even if you don't leave after 18 months your manager might. How can you build a real relationship with only 6 meetings total?
- aboodman 6mo agoDo you people only interact with your manager via 1:1? I was constantly interacting with my boss - design meetings, code reviews, product decisions, whiteboard sessions, in slack, in irc ... he was always around. I got to know him much better through these productive interactions then awkward smalltalk in a 1:1. And it kind of make sense to meet privately quarterly since perf reviews are also quarterly and that's the only reason I can really think of for a private scheduled face-to-face. Of course I could always just ask for a private meeting anytime I wanted, which I guess I did from time to time. But it always for a product reason: a tough tech choice I was wrestling with or similar.
- reverius42 6mo agoI guess it depends on the culture. In a lot of work cultures those other meetings are all work, and if you are fully remote (especially while others are not)* then there's no water-cooler talk. Plus I think the regularity/cadence of it is supposed to provide some psychological safety. Asking for a one-off meeting feels like overkill for a normal 1:1, and yet a little intimidating for the type of 1:1 that you really need to have a 1:1 for (like discussing interpersonal issues). * I suppose if everyone's fully remote, in theory the water-cooler talk moves to Slack.