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Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? I am in my mid-thirties and I am still waiting for the hyperact

by hirvi74 6mo ago

Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? I am in my mid-thirties and I am still waiting for the hyperactivity to die down.

colechristensen 6mo ago
Getting the best out of yourself and your environment isn't a matter of waiting to fit in to the sit-down-and-focus shaped life. You have to learn about yourself and learn about how to shape your environment to live your best life, and a major step is not thinking about having that temperament as a disease to be overcome.
- hirvi74 6mo ago
  Ironically, I know myself very well. I had no choice early on life. I was not officially diagnosed until I was a young adult, FWIW. Most of my difficulties in life are due to the intersections of my 'temperament' with others. If there was a way I could make life work for me, I would have done so by now. I did not choose to have this 'temperament', and I do not want to have this 'temperament.' If you have been able to make your life fit for you, consider me jealous. But you need to understand that because you or others are capable of doing so does not mean everyone else is capable of the same.
  - colechristensen 6mo ago
    I understand, very personally, the struggle and frustration.
aguacaterojo 6mo ago
Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours? Do you think someone who can't do that is defective?
- hirvi74 6mo ago
  > Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours? No, I was just reiterating the value in the GP comment. I do think the ability to set still has some sort of distribution like all other human attributes. I think it's more important to focus on how little someone sits still compared to how long someone sits still. I'd be lucky to make it a few minutes. > Do you think someone who can't do that is defective? No, I do not think of myself nor others that way. I would identify as misaligned. Honestly, ADHD does not cause me as much harm as it does for everyone else in my life. And brother, let me tell you, after all the punishment you receive for being misaligned, you really start to believe you are defective.
yuye 6mo ago
>Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? Frankly, my ability to do exactly that when I do something I'm interested in is part of the problem. I'd snap out of my hyperfocus at 11pm, realizing I haven't eaten or drank anything since lunchtime.
- hirvi74 6mo ago
  Yeah, the attention deficits can absolutely cut both ways.

by hirvi74 6mo ago

Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? I am in my mid-thirties and I am still waiting for the hyperactivity to die down.

colechristensen 6mo ago

Getting the best out of yourself and your environment isn't a matter of waiting to fit in to the sit-down-and-focus shaped life. You have to learn about yourself and learn about how to shape your environment to live your best life, and a major step is not thinking about having that temperament as a disease to be overcome.

hirvi74 6mo ago
Ironically, I know myself very well. I had no choice early on life. I was not officially diagnosed until I was a young adult, FWIW. Most of my difficulties in life are due to the intersections of my 'temperament' with others. If there was a way I could make life work for me, I would have done so by now. I did not choose to have this 'temperament', and I do not want to have this 'temperament.' If you have been able to make your life fit for you, consider me jealous. But you need to understand that because you or others are capable of doing so does not mean everyone else is capable of the same.
- colechristensen 6mo ago
  I understand, very personally, the struggle and frustration.

aguacaterojo 6mo ago

Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours? Do you think someone who can't do that is defective?

hirvi74 6mo ago
> Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours? No, I was just reiterating the value in the GP comment. I do think the ability to set still has some sort of distribution like all other human attributes. I think it's more important to focus on how little someone sits still compared to how long someone sits still. I'd be lucky to make it a few minutes. > Do you think someone who can't do that is defective? No, I do not think of myself nor others that way. I would identify as misaligned. Honestly, ADHD does not cause me as much harm as it does for everyone else in my life. And brother, let me tell you, after all the punishment you receive for being misaligned, you really start to believe you are defective.

yuye 6mo ago

>Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? Frankly, my ability to do exactly that when I do something I'm interested in is part of the problem. I'd snap out of my hyperfocus at 11pm, realizing I haven't eaten or drank anything since lunchtime.

hirvi74 6mo ago
Yeah, the attention deficits can absolutely cut both ways.