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It depends on the site but when I was a SAHD, I found many of those parenting sites were not welcoming to dads, even dads doing the exact same work as the moms.
by brewdad 5mo ago
It depends on the site but when I was a SAHD, I found many of those parenting sites were not welcoming to dads, even dads doing the exact same work as the moms. Moms there wanted a place to vent about their husbands and men who were pulling their fair share or were handling most of the parent duties simply weren't allowed.
- giantg2 5mo agoThis, it's well known that women want to vent and men want to fix the issue. This difference in communication and perspective has been supported in various research.
- hackable_sand 5mo agoThat is your bias talking.
- giantg2 5mo agoThe reseach says otherwise. https://couplestherapyinc.com/why-women-complain-and-why-men-should-do-more-of-it/ https://couplestherapyinc.com/why-women-complain-and-why-men...
- ravenstine 5mo agoResearch is of course useful but not even necessary here. This is common sense.
- bigstrat2003 5mo agoYeah, seriously. Anyone with some experience in life understands that men and women are (on average) wired very differently, and this is one of the ways.
- mc3301 5mo agoone of the better places I found found was Daddit on reddit, though I haven't been in a while.
- david-gpu 5mo agoI found that /r/daddit was full of pictures of dads with infants. On the other hand, /r/parenting was full of moms desperate because their partners didn't to their part. It really paints a picture, if you think about it.
- kelipso 5mo agoIt's like how /r/steak is just dudes posting steak pictures, and there is some new cooking sub where it's just women posting food pictures and complaining about their significant others. Women be complaining.
- mc3301 5mo agoI'm not sure how serious you are about the dismissive "women be complaining" comment. A big part of your perception may be that women have more to 'complain' about; society is measurably unfair for women. Another part could be that when women voice their struggles it is called "complaining," and when men voice their struggles they are "being serious." Also, men get shot down for showing vulnerability and seeking support, so their struggles are internal. And this isn't always good for mental health.
- kelipso 5mo agoMy comment was descriptive, not normative. I’m not ascribing moral valence to it, just stating what’s happening and speculating why. For example, men probably complain less because men get shot down for showing vulnerability in public settings like online forums. Women probably complain more in public because they get sympathy. Whether one is good, or one is more mentally healthy, I don’t think either is healthier or unhealthier, but I don’t particularly care.
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