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I also have been surprised by how fun fatherhood is. When kids are days, weeks, months old, they're constantly experiencing new things. That's the first tree s
by strix_varius 6mo ago
I also have been surprised by how fun fatherhood is.
When kids are days, weeks, months old, they're constantly experiencing new things. That's the first tree she ever saw! It's amazing to experience the world through them.
When they're a couple years old, you see them learning and connecting and developing a unique personality. I love it when my two year old picks up on things that I missed, or teaches me something. And it's kind of awesome to be someone's superhero for however long this lasts.
I don't know how it goes after this but so far the trend has been that they get more fun as they grow...
- dlenski 6mo ago> I also have been surprised by how fun fatherhood is. Same here. My son is approaching two, and he's a blast. He can be tiring, he can be a big ol’ mess, but he's never boring. He's healthy and he eats well and he's a good sleeper, so he doesn't give us much to worry about. He charms everyone he meets, he explores everything, and every day is just a fireworks show of new delights and discoveries. I go on a business trip for 2-3 days and I come back to him doing new things. Looking forward to the second kiddo!
- tasuki 6mo ago[flagged]
- strix_varius 6mo agoI think this is an unfair characterization. I also go on business trips - about six a year, one week each. That leaves 230 days of waking up, getting dressed, and walking to preschool. 322 nights of bath time and reading and tucking in. The occasional trip for work doesn't negate the steady state effort that fatherhood requires.
- tasuki 6mo agoYes of course, it's an unfair characterization, sorry for that. Still, it's a way more leisurely experience from what my fatherhood looked like...
- dlenski 6mo agoUh…? That's not my life at all. I work from home 95% of the time, with most of my colleagues a continent away. So I'm definitely home and present in my son's life nearly all the time, probably more so than many parents given that I don't have any time occupied by a daily commute.
- mh- 6mo agoI recommend talking that projection over with a therapist, rather than pseudonymous HN commenters.
- tasuki 6mo agoAlways solid advice.
- c22 6mo agoThere's all sorts of fun and exciting milestones ahead, but in my experience around 18mos - 4yrs is sort of a sweet spot. Enjoy it while it lasts!