To clarify, I wasn’t trying to belittle you. While the internet is fond of spreading myths about narcissism, few actual realize NPD is a proper disorder in the

To clarify, I wasn’t trying to belittle you. While the internet is fond of spreading myths about narcissism, few actual realize NPD is a proper disorder in the DSM-5. Btw, there are two types of NPD. The typical over the top bravado version, and the less recognizable “passive aggression “ version. Same core inner issues, just two different defense mechanisms. Things I’ve read that you might find fascinating a/o helpful: - The Courage to be Disliked. This book change my lens on human behavior - my own, as well as that of others. - Just about anything by Ellen Langer. She’s exceptional at challenging the status quo, and making “Gee, I never thought of that in that way” observations. - 50 Psychology Classics by Tom Butler Bowden. Even the brief summaries have helpful ideas. Again, I apologize if I stepped on your toes. That was not my intention. TBH I recently left a relationship where my exGF sounded a lot like you in many ways. In addition, Tho she said she was a recovering alcoholic, I’m convinced she suffered from NPD and recovery and AA simple fit that profile (I.e., lack of accountability, made playing the victim card easy, using it as a tool for manipulation, etc.)(1) I don’t beliefe it was intentional per se, as much as over a lifetime she had crafted a lifestyle for so long that it was perfectly natural for her. It wasn’t a defense mechanism. It was as natural as breathing. This will all make more sense once you read The Courage to Be Disliked (1) all these are classic NPD