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Look, a piece of valid advice, and let me prefix this with I’ve been in business a long time and I run a big company. If you want to get anywhere, it’s only go

Look, a piece of valid advice, and let me prefix this with I’ve been in business a long time and I run a big company. If you want to get anywhere, it’s only going to happen by making deals with others. For this, you need to be kind and caring. You need to negotiate with people and make everyone feel good, like they’re getting a good deal, not your response: “bitch come suck my dick” which by the way is sexual harassment. You had one opportunity to remove the account of the guy who complained and issue an apology, and you failed. If you had just done this, your site would still be up and viral. At any point in your negotiations with the Dean you could have offered to work with him to incorporate his feedback and reinforced how the platform was going viral and that it was going to be good for publicity because of its parallels to Facebook. You needed to identify his core concern (perhaps control) and resolve it mutually (make him an admin account or something). That’s what being a leader is about, not being an egotistic maniac.

JumpCrisscross 6mo ago
> You had one opportunity to remove the account of the guy who complained and issue an apology Yup. Giving users the ability to hide content on their own pages would have been a good start. (Or at least flagging it for manual review.) That said, there are always idiots you have to ignore. Learning how to balance responsiveness is a real life skill. (As is not giving in to base instincts by insulting those potential idiots.)
1whizkid1 6mo ago
I really appreciate your comment and you being nice... btw, in life, normally, I think I'm really nice to everyone around me... >"You had one opportunity to remove the account of the guy who complained and issue an apology, and you failed." I did take his profile down btw (not much was even written there). He was telling me to take the site down, and being really really rude to me. If he would have asked me nicely, i wouldnt even have said anything to him (a few other ppl had aksed nicely, and i had just taken their profiles down). He tried to be threatening, and saying shit like "How are you not going to take it down after I have told you to!" and then after that, he told me he was going to drag me out of my hostel room and beat me up in the morning. like obv, if someone is being this rude to me, all i can do is tell him to come suck my dick, why would i be nice to him? >"At any point in your negotiations with the Dean" That is exactly what I tried to do. when I went in, I tried to talk to him, explain my side, listen to him, but he was not giving me a chance to speak at all. just freaking out, just saying take the site down. there was no negotiation at all. he literally jsut said 'take it down' no matter what I tried to tell him. what else could I have done at this point
- IAmBroom 6mo ago
  You don't have a God-given right to negotiate with authorities. Sometimes you just have to take the ticket; being an a-hole back to the cop - even if the cop was an a-hole first - wins you nothing in life. You'll eventually learn this, kid. Or become the Unibomber. Or just a sad, angry online troll.
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- Doxin 6mo ago
  > like obv, if someone is being this rude to me, all i can do is tell him to come suck my dick Thaty's far from the only option there, however tempting it is. > why would i be nice to him? Because being nice to people is how you get things you want. > what else could I have done at this point You could've promised to take the site down, which both functions as a gesture of good will and to calm the deans nerves. At that point you'd probably be in a much better position to start a conversation on how you could make the site in a way the dean is comfortable with.
voxgen 6mo ago
Thank you for the reminder. Childhood, at least IME, does a bad job of preparing people for this: fault and blame rarely matter in real interactions. When no teacher is around to play judge, all that matters is that you get a favorable outcome. That's something you need to figure out, usually in the heat of the moment, how to get. It takes active effort to understand the other side.

JumpCrisscross 6mo ago

> You had one opportunity to remove the account of the guy who complained and issue an apology Yup. Giving users the ability to hide content on their own pages would have been a good start. (Or at least flagging it for manual review.) That said, there are always idiots you have to ignore. Learning how to balance responsiveness is a real life skill. (As is not giving in to base instincts by insulting those potential idiots.)

1whizkid1 6mo ago

I really appreciate your comment and you being nice... btw, in life, normally, I think I'm really nice to everyone around me... >"You had one opportunity to remove the account of the guy who complained and issue an apology, and you failed." I did take his profile down btw (not much was even written there). He was telling me to take the site down, and being really really rude to me. If he would have asked me nicely, i wouldnt even have said anything to him (a few other ppl had aksed nicely, and i had just taken their profiles down). He tried to be threatening, and saying shit like "How are you not going to take it down after I have told you to!" and then after that, he told me he was going to drag me out of my hostel room and beat me up in the morning. like obv, if someone is being this rude to me, all i can do is tell him to come suck my dick, why would i be nice to him? >"At any point in your negotiations with the Dean" That is exactly what I tried to do. when I went in, I tried to talk to him, explain my side, listen to him, but he was not giving me a chance to speak at all. just freaking out, just saying take the site down. there was no negotiation at all. he literally jsut said 'take it down' no matter what I tried to tell him. what else could I have done at this point

IAmBroom 6mo ago
You don't have a God-given right to negotiate with authorities. Sometimes you just have to take the ticket; being an a-hole back to the cop - even if the cop was an a-hole first - wins you nothing in life. You'll eventually learn this, kid. Or become the Unibomber. Or just a sad, angry online troll.

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Doxin 6mo ago
> like obv, if someone is being this rude to me, all i can do is tell him to come suck my dick Thaty's far from the only option there, however tempting it is. > why would i be nice to him? Because being nice to people is how you get things you want. > what else could I have done at this point You could've promised to take the site down, which both functions as a gesture of good will and to calm the deans nerves. At that point you'd probably be in a much better position to start a conversation on how you could make the site in a way the dean is comfortable with.

voxgen 6mo ago

Thank you for the reminder. Childhood, at least IME, does a bad job of preparing people for this: fault and blame rarely matter in real interactions. When no teacher is around to play judge, all that matters is that you get a favorable outcome. That's something you need to figure out, usually in the heat of the moment, how to get. It takes active effort to understand the other side.