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I just cannot fathom comments like this. I’m preeetty sure that the vast majority of people spend half an hour a day doing nothing, in front of a screen of some

by Sharlin 7mo ago

I just cannot fathom comments like this. I’m preeetty sure that the vast majority of people spend half an hour a day doing nothing, in front of a screen of some type. How many people do you think there are there who don’t have thirty minutes of leisure time once per week?!

Tade0 7mo ago
Fresh parents without relatives to help out.
- prepend 7mo ago
  Check out the screen time log for fresh parents. I remember the first few months being so crazy. Feedings every two hours, and each feeding took an hour. But still time for naps, short walks, etc. part of the survival was to work in little microbreaks when the baby was sleeping.
  - sersi 7mo ago
    I've never read as much on my kindle as when my son was born. I didn't want to use my phone so any micro break was spent reading. Much harder to do now that my son is 4 years old, I'm less sleep deprived but there's less opportunities for micro breaks when I'm with him.
  - skrebbel 7mo ago
    Huge difference between constantly being in passive alert mode waiting for the kid to wake up and cry their heart out, and proper uninterrupted “I know have x minutes for myself, no matter what” time.
    - KellyCriterion 7mo ago
      > being in passive alert mode AH, MANY THANKS! That was the wording I was actually looking for when our twins arrived - I couldnt even sit down to read a printed newspaper article with 2 pages....
      - skrebbel 7mo ago
        Yeah it's awful huh. People think you get time when the kid sleeps but really it's just.. the worst :-) Sure thing my kids were cute when they were small but I'm pretty glad they're bigger now!
- Mashimo 7mo ago
  If it's winter, put the baby in the pram outside, while you do a quick sauna session?
- Maxion 7mo ago
  We still managed fine. All young kids sleep quite a lot. Newborns a crapton. Older kids who don't are old enough to sauna too.
- mannyv 7mo ago
  Infants sleep a lot. You have to adjust to their schedule, though.
lxgr 7mo ago
There's a world of a difference between being able to carve out 30 actually uninterrupted minutes (and realistically more; most people don't have a sauna in their home, so they'd need to spend some time getting there and back) and being able to zone out and stare at a screen for 30 minutes in bed or on public transit.
- Jensson 7mo ago
  > and realistically more; most people don't have a sauna in their home Most people have a sauna in their home, this is Finland.
  - Maxion 7mo ago
    And those that don't have usually access to one in the building that they can use. Or if they don't have that, can just go to one of the numerous public saunas.
  - nextlevelwizard 7mo ago
    Is this actual stat? Or do you mean “have access to” instead of actually “at their home” i.e. a private sauna they can use at any time 24/7, because from my lived experience I doubt the latter.
    - decimalenough 7mo ago
      Essentially all residential buildings in Finland have saunas. Freestanding houses have private ones, apartments have communal ones but you can book a private time slot.
      - nextlevelwizard 7mo ago
        Yeah, so the latter as I suspected
- Sharlin 7mo ago
  Not having an hour of uninterrupted leisure time per day, never mind per week (most Finns don’t go to sauna every day) still sounds pretty unfathomable, except maybe in some specific circumstances like being a fresh single parent or similar. In any case, in Finland people go to sauna together with even fairly young kids (like 3+ years old), with breaks as needed of course, even most adults don’t usually spend thirty continuous minutes in a 80°C sauna.
wiseowise 7mo ago
Are you even living if you're not spending every single minute breathing and shitting your work and/or kids?
- sph 7mo ago
  The meaning is either ‘I’m too busy to have time to relax’ or ‘I’m too poor not to work all day’, at which point I think of a quote from Office Space: “you don’t need a million dollars to do nothing. Look at my cousin, he’s broke and he don’t do shit.” It’s a typical crab bucket mentality, wanting to make you feel bad because you have a minimum of self-respect. Can’t have that in this economy.
pkilgore 7mo ago
You "cannot fathom" the privilege your have or life experience you lack to believe this unconditionally.

by Sharlin 7mo ago

Tade0 7mo ago

Fresh parents without relatives to help out.

prepend 7mo ago
Check out the screen time log for fresh parents. I remember the first few months being so crazy. Feedings every two hours, and each feeding took an hour. But still time for naps, short walks, etc. part of the survival was to work in little microbreaks when the baby was sleeping.
- sersi 7mo ago
  I've never read as much on my kindle as when my son was born. I didn't want to use my phone so any micro break was spent reading. Much harder to do now that my son is 4 years old, I'm less sleep deprived but there's less opportunities for micro breaks when I'm with him.
- skrebbel 7mo ago
  Huge difference between constantly being in passive alert mode waiting for the kid to wake up and cry their heart out, and proper uninterrupted “I know have x minutes for myself, no matter what” time.
  - KellyCriterion 7mo ago
    > being in passive alert mode AH, MANY THANKS! That was the wording I was actually looking for when our twins arrived - I couldnt even sit down to read a printed newspaper article with 2 pages....
    - skrebbel 7mo ago
      Yeah it's awful huh. People think you get time when the kid sleeps but really it's just.. the worst :-) Sure thing my kids were cute when they were small but I'm pretty glad they're bigger now!
Mashimo 7mo ago
If it's winter, put the baby in the pram outside, while you do a quick sauna session?
Maxion 7mo ago
We still managed fine. All young kids sleep quite a lot. Newborns a crapton. Older kids who don't are old enough to sauna too.
mannyv 7mo ago
Infants sleep a lot. You have to adjust to their schedule, though.

lxgr 7mo ago

There's a world of a difference between being able to carve out 30 actually uninterrupted minutes (and realistically more; most people don't have a sauna in their home, so they'd need to spend some time getting there and back) and being able to zone out and stare at a screen for 30 minutes in bed or on public transit.

Jensson 7mo ago
> and realistically more; most people don't have a sauna in their home Most people have a sauna in their home, this is Finland.
- Maxion 7mo ago
  And those that don't have usually access to one in the building that they can use. Or if they don't have that, can just go to one of the numerous public saunas.
- nextlevelwizard 7mo ago
  Is this actual stat? Or do you mean “have access to” instead of actually “at their home” i.e. a private sauna they can use at any time 24/7, because from my lived experience I doubt the latter.
  - decimalenough 7mo ago
    Essentially all residential buildings in Finland have saunas. Freestanding houses have private ones, apartments have communal ones but you can book a private time slot.
    - nextlevelwizard 7mo ago
      Yeah, so the latter as I suspected
Sharlin 7mo ago
Not having an hour of uninterrupted leisure time per day, never mind per week (most Finns don’t go to sauna every day) still sounds pretty unfathomable, except maybe in some specific circumstances like being a fresh single parent or similar. In any case, in Finland people go to sauna together with even fairly young kids (like 3+ years old), with breaks as needed of course, even most adults don’t usually spend thirty continuous minutes in a 80°C sauna.

wiseowise 7mo ago

Are you even living if you're not spending every single minute breathing and shitting your work and/or kids?

sph 7mo ago
The meaning is either ‘I’m too busy to have time to relax’ or ‘I’m too poor not to work all day’, at which point I think of a quote from Office Space: “you don’t need a million dollars to do nothing. Look at my cousin, he’s broke and he don’t do shit.” It’s a typical crab bucket mentality, wanting to make you feel bad because you have a minimum of self-respect. Can’t have that in this economy.

pkilgore 7mo ago

You "cannot fathom" the privilege your have or life experience you lack to believe this unconditionally.