You outline an ideal but in my estimation probably 20% of people actively let others “set their lines” for them. They are so used to deferring decision making o

You outline an ideal but in my estimation probably 20% of people actively let others “set their lines” for them. They are so used to deferring decision making or suppressing their own feelings on the matter that they lose the ability to do it entirely. Maybe for them this article is a step in the right direction. This next part is woo-woo, take it for what it’s worth. When getting my massage license we had a whole day talking about how many people have chronic pain because they suppress negative emotion and it ends up on their body. Think “grin and bear it”. It turns out “bearing it” is a physical process in your body with negative consequences. You probably know someone like this who is very agreeable and also has very bad headaches, gut problems, strange pains/“fibromyalgia” symptoms. They’re always chasing a medical reason for their discomfort but maybe their discomfort is that they are holding in a lot of resentment instead of “holding their line” as the article puts it. Stress is /always/ manifested physically in the body—what would it even mean to be stressed out but also totally physically relaxed? And as it turns out, letting other people stomp all over your intentions is very stressful.