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You've missed the point. The point is that the women in question demand it. There is no shortage of women on social media ranting about how lazy or cheap men ar
by mikebenfield 6mo ago
You've missed the point. The point is that the women in question demand it. There is no shortage of women on social media ranting about how lazy or cheap men are who want to do coffee or drinks for a first date. Or especially a walk. If you suggest a walk for a first date there's a strong chance you'll never hear from her again.
- alistairSH 6mo agoSo, you've saved yourself the time and expense of a shared walk and two cups of coffee. Isn't that a win? Unless you are just looking to get laid, in which case, suck it up and buy dinner, I guess.
- array_key_first 6mo agoYes, but the point is that people are not successful on these apps because of those expectations. A lot of people have sort of let the whole online dating thing go straight to their head. And now, theyd rather die alone than be slightly uncomfortable for a few minutes.
- hackable_sand 6mo agoWhy are you guys so concerned with these people? Let them live their lives. I guarantee you they are not dying alone or whatever mortal curse you wish to invoke.
- alistairSH 6mo agoI'm not, was just responding to the apparent frustration and finding people who want expensive dinners dates. If that's not your thing, great, there are people out there who would love a coffee and a walk or whatever. I'm one of them. A formal dinner on a first date sounds awful to my slightly shy and introverted self. I'd much rather go hiking or something.
- Forgeties79 6mo agoI don’t think they were talking about you
- array_key_first 6mo agoI'm not concerned with them - I'm just explaining why dating apps suck. I'm also not casting a curse on anyone, you misunderstood. I'm not saying I'm better than them so this doesn't happen to me. No, it also happens to me. Because this is by design. This is systemic. The apps are designed in such a way to make your expectations unrealistic and thereby perpetually let you down, because that's how you continue to use the app!
- sapphicsnail 6mo agoMost of the complaints I've seen are about men being rude and aggressive. I can tell you from experience that it's a lot scarier to date men.