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Weirdly, he is (IIRC) a first generation Bangladeshi immigrant with mixed race kids. Not sure how it all makes sense in his head. I imagine that someday his kid

Weirdly, he is (IIRC) a first generation Bangladeshi immigrant with mixed race kids. Not sure how it all makes sense in his head. I imagine that someday his kids will read his archived comment history and feel embarrassed.

rayiner 7mo ago
> he is (IIRC) a first generation Bangladeshi immigrant Right, so someone who understands that Bangladesh is the way it is in large part due to Bangladeshi culture. I’m not raising my kids with any foreign identity or culture, just like my parents didn’t raise me with any foreign identity. My dad doesn’t own a Bangladeshi flag and thinks calling him a hyphenated American makes him a second class citizen. The view that “brown people” have to cling to the culture of some dysfunctional country they left—waving around the flag of a country their ancestors built into something they had to leave—is one that was dormant when I was growing up, fortunately for me. > mixed race kids The concept of “mixed race” is a vile holdover from segregation. It’s a way of designating something superficial as meaningful. We don’t talk about “mixed eye color kids.” Luckily for my kids, all three came out three different colors, so they understand intuitively that skin color is just about how much their mom attacks them with sunscreen and isn’t an identity. > I imagine that someday his kids will read his archived comment history and feel embarrassed. My kids unfortunately will be reading this from an America where mass immigration without assimilation has led to political factionalism and dysfunction. A place that’s more like Syria or Iraq, where people vote based on group membership than individual preferences. And they’ll unfortunately know I was right.
- tastyface 7mo ago
  It's strange you seem to carry water for a political movement that very expressly wants to remove you, your family, and probably your kids in favor of the "heritage" white population. You will never be American enough for them. The DHS official account and, most recently, Greg Bovino have cited 100 million as the number of people they want to deport -- far in excess of the undocumented/illegal population. Also, *this* is the kind of shit that I'd expect from third world failed states, not whatever tepid/centrist policies the Democrats are trying to push: https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/trump-receives-yet-another-prize-015717197.html https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/trump-receives-yet-anoth... I genuinely hope that you and your kids have a great future in this country. Politically, that's what I'm fighting for. The Republican white nationalist fever dream is not the America I grew up in and once admired.
  - rayiner 7mo ago
    The woke right isn’t going to take over the GOP and turn America into Utah again. TACO Trump is already chickening out on deportations. But mainstream Democrats maintaining their current course may very well turn the country into Queens. And I’m sorry Queens reminds me too much of Bangladesh, the chaos and disorder and political dysfunction. The third-worldian appeals to group identity, emotions, and “justice.” At that point you might as well deport me.
    - tastyface 7mo ago
      As someone whose culture and religion deviate from those of Republicans, I'm much more terrified of any movement along the axis towards "turning American into Utah¹" than "turning America into Queens" -- on behalf of both myself and my brown neighbors. Also, I'd happily argue that anyone who loathes Queens should be ashamed of calling themselves an American. For as long as I've been around, Queens has been far more representative of the US and its promise than white middle America. ¹ (Strange example to pick given that Mormonism is pretty far removed from Evangelical Christianity, but whatever.)
      - rayiner 7mo ago
        You’re ret-conning America. Who was Alexis de Tocqueville writing about in “Democracy in America?” It was the people in what you call “middle america.” The America that my parents left their homeland for was created by those people and reflects their culture. There is nothing great about Queens. It’s just a richer version of Dhaka. Loud, chaotic, fractious, politically dysfunctional cities are a dime a dozen all over the world. Utah, meanwhile, is a fucking treasure. It’s clean, organized, orderly. The people are rule following, cheerful by default, emotionally repressed, legalistic, and punctual. They’re socialized to be that way from an early age. There’s only a handful of places in the world like it in the world and it’s precious.[1] America’s greatness isn’t whatever bullshit you’re on about. That’s not why my parents left everything behind to come here. What makes America great is that I can go down to my county office and get a birth certificate printed in 20 minutes. It’s people who are so rule following that they’ll jump off a bridge if you give them paperwork that says they have to do that. That’s what a rarity in the world. [1] The fact that Mormonism is very different from evangelical Christianity proves that my point isn’t about religion. I don’t care what religion you are. If Little Bangladesh was clean and orderly and efficient like Salt Lake City I would live there myself go to mosque and get fat eating Bangladeshi desserts: https://yelp.to/0XejznQCXp https://yelp.to/0XejznQCXp

rayiner 7mo ago

> he is (IIRC) a first generation Bangladeshi immigrant Right, so someone who understands that Bangladesh is the way it is in large part due to Bangladeshi culture. I’m not raising my kids with any foreign identity or culture, just like my parents didn’t raise me with any foreign identity. My dad doesn’t own a Bangladeshi flag and thinks calling him a hyphenated American makes him a second class citizen. The view that “brown people” have to cling to the culture of some dysfunctional country they left—waving around the flag of a country their ancestors built into something they had to leave—is one that was dormant when I was growing up, fortunately for me. > mixed race kids The concept of “mixed race” is a vile holdover from segregation. It’s a way of designating something superficial as meaningful. We don’t talk about “mixed eye color kids.” Luckily for my kids, all three came out three different colors, so they understand intuitively that skin color is just about how much their mom attacks them with sunscreen and isn’t an identity. > I imagine that someday his kids will read his archived comment history and feel embarrassed. My kids unfortunately will be reading this from an America where mass immigration without assimilation has led to political factionalism and dysfunction. A place that’s more like Syria or Iraq, where people vote based on group membership than individual preferences. And they’ll unfortunately know I was right.

tastyface 7mo ago
It's strange you seem to carry water for a political movement that very expressly wants to remove you, your family, and probably your kids in favor of the "heritage" white population. You will never be American enough for them. The DHS official account and, most recently, Greg Bovino have cited 100 million as the number of people they want to deport -- far in excess of the undocumented/illegal population. Also, *this* is the kind of shit that I'd expect from third world failed states, not whatever tepid/centrist policies the Democrats are trying to push: https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/trump-receives-yet-another-prize-015717197.html https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/trump-receives-yet-anoth... I genuinely hope that you and your kids have a great future in this country. Politically, that's what I'm fighting for. The Republican white nationalist fever dream is not the America I grew up in and once admired.
- rayiner 7mo ago
  The woke right isn’t going to take over the GOP and turn America into Utah again. TACO Trump is already chickening out on deportations. But mainstream Democrats maintaining their current course may very well turn the country into Queens. And I’m sorry Queens reminds me too much of Bangladesh, the chaos and disorder and political dysfunction. The third-worldian appeals to group identity, emotions, and “justice.” At that point you might as well deport me.
  - tastyface 7mo ago
    As someone whose culture and religion deviate from those of Republicans, I'm much more terrified of any movement along the axis towards "turning American into Utah¹" than "turning America into Queens" -- on behalf of both myself and my brown neighbors. Also, I'd happily argue that anyone who loathes Queens should be ashamed of calling themselves an American. For as long as I've been around, Queens has been far more representative of the US and its promise than white middle America. ¹ (Strange example to pick given that Mormonism is pretty far removed from Evangelical Christianity, but whatever.)
    - rayiner 7mo ago
      You’re ret-conning America. Who was Alexis de Tocqueville writing about in “Democracy in America?” It was the people in what you call “middle america.” The America that my parents left their homeland for was created by those people and reflects their culture. There is nothing great about Queens. It’s just a richer version of Dhaka. Loud, chaotic, fractious, politically dysfunctional cities are a dime a dozen all over the world. Utah, meanwhile, is a fucking treasure. It’s clean, organized, orderly. The people are rule following, cheerful by default, emotionally repressed, legalistic, and punctual. They’re socialized to be that way from an early age. There’s only a handful of places in the world like it in the world and it’s precious.[1] America’s greatness isn’t whatever bullshit you’re on about. That’s not why my parents left everything behind to come here. What makes America great is that I can go down to my county office and get a birth certificate printed in 20 minutes. It’s people who are so rule following that they’ll jump off a bridge if you give them paperwork that says they have to do that. That’s what a rarity in the world. [1] The fact that Mormonism is very different from evangelical Christianity proves that my point isn’t about religion. I don’t care what religion you are. If Little Bangladesh was clean and orderly and efficient like Salt Lake City I would live there myself go to mosque and get fat eating Bangladeshi desserts: https://yelp.to/0XejznQCXp https://yelp.to/0XejznQCXp