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Do you have any friends? Your job is a good topic that allows you to find something in common with another person.
by jazz9k 7mo ago
Do you have any friends? Your job is a good topic that allows you to find something in common with another person.
- fcarraldo 7mo agoNot if they work outside of tech…
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- galleywest200 7mo agoI prefer to ask people what they do for fun when looking for something in common, as opposed to what they do for work. Some people are recently laid off, and asking what they do for work might sting a bit.
- tdeck 7mo agoI like asking both, but these days a lot of the "what do you do for fun" answers are just consumption hobbies (e.g. I watch X show on Netflix) that people use to switch off after a long day of work. It's easier to think of interesting follow up questions about someone's work than about these kinds of hobbies. Even if (especially if) the work is something completely different from what I'm doing.
- 9rx 7mo ago> I prefer to ask people what they do for fun when looking for something in common, as opposed to what they do for work. Hasn't the question always implied to be about what you do for fun? It has never occurred to me that should answer "I wash the dishes".
- Tor3 7mo agoAs the sister comment said: "Not if they work outside of tech…" And not even then, in many cases. I know exactly what I do, but having to explain that to anyone, including people in tech, is difficult. And, you know, it's not interesting to talk about. Talking about that is fine at the job, that's what we do. I have no interest in talking about that when I'm not working. Instead I want to talk about other things. Hobbies, activities, music, books, whatever. Enquring about someone's job will not lead to that at all.