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I admire your frank honesty > Generally, I regret having kids Please don't ever, ever let them know this, or even allow them to figure it out. Especially befo
by gib444 8mo ago
I admire your frank honesty
> Generally, I regret having kids
Please don't ever, ever let them know this, or even allow them to figure it out. Especially before they're at least ~30 and able to begin to understand.
- Daneel_ 8mo agoI would never let them think I regret them - that’s such a cruel thing to inflict upon them, and it’s certainly not their fault. I also don’t regret the joy it’s brought my wife. I regret the loss of my mental energy and personal time, but not them, if that makes sense.
- gib444 8mo ago> that’s such a cruel thing to inflict upon them It certainly is. Speaking from personal experience. And he let me know in a very direct and cruel way.
- Daneel_ 8mo agoI’m genuinely sorry to hear that. I make sure my kids know I love them in many, many ways.
- karmakurtisaani 8mo agoFor me it helped to realize that the things I would have done with the extra time and energy would not have been that great. Some occasional dopamine bursts for a very mediocre outcome. Having kids is a better investment, but a less fun one.